ultimon Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 I'm curious to know what all you guys do with your ex's stuff. I'm talking about things that are having mostly just sentimental value (letters, stuffed animals, pictures etc...) Do you guys just put them all in a box and leave it aside? burn them? trash them? I'd like to hear from you guys
Guest Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 i keep them in the same place as always my ex has a few things i gave her and asked her to return them only when she wanted to shared them again
My Fair Katie Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Stuck 'em in a box. Tossed 'em when I moved. I did save one tshirt of an ex's alma mata, not because I missed him but because it was a nice shirt. Eventually my husband asked me to toss it and I told him I would as soon as he got me a replacement with his college. He did and in the trash the old shirt went. Other than that, I don't hang on to any type of "stuff." I hate clutter, I hate knick knacks, I hate stuffed animals. It's all stuff I just have to dust.
luvtoto Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 A couple months ago, I was under my X-fiance's spell. I was missing him and started to get nostalgic. I didn't contact him or anything...but, I did take out the saphire and diamond necklace he gave me for Christmas a couple years ago. He gave it to me during one of our ON times. We were ON/OFF for four years. Anyways! I wore it to work one day. Seemed like the more I whore the necklace, the more power it had over me. I asked myself, will that man make you happy? Do you want him back? I answered, "nope!" I then, quietly ripped the necklace off my neck as a statement to myself that it was over for good. Then, threw it in the trash. Which I dug out later in the day. I am not that crazy!
Pyro Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 I'm curious to know what all you guys do with your ex's stuff. I'm talking about things that are having mostly just sentimental value (letters, stuffed animals, pictures etc...) Do you guys just put them all in a box and leave it aside? burn them? trash them? I'd like to hear from you guys With my first ex, I threw it all in a bag and trashed it, pictures included. My last ex, I threw it all in a bag and dumped it on her porch.
Author ultimon Posted December 30, 2006 Author Posted December 30, 2006 With my first ex, I threw it all in a bag and trashed it, pictures included. My last ex, I threw it all in a bag and dumped it on her porch. lol i'm thinking about donating the stuffed animals. but xmas is over, do they still accept toy donations?
Pyro Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 lol i'm thinking about donating the stuffed animals. but xmas is over, do they still accept toy donations? Not sure....there is only one way to actually find out.
westernxer Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Some people like mementos. I donate mine to the local waste management company.
Author ultimon Posted December 30, 2006 Author Posted December 30, 2006 Some people like mementos. I donate mine to the local waste management company. hahaha their donation boxes everywhere makes it especially convenient!
stanchain Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Well everything that was irreplacable I gave to her... everything else.. IE pictures and such... had a bonfire... why keep it... to be reminded of what you once had? nah... burn hollywood burn
jusified Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 I want to sell some stuff on ebay LOL.... Who wants a break up photo with picture frame....with [COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]comical moustaches [/FONT][/COLOR]on the photo?? We will start the bid at $5. I chucked it all in a bag and still deciding what to do with it. Its locked away atm but probably throw it out eventually, don't want to look at all the cards and notes etc.
Kelso Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 I took all my stuff and put it in a box which I keep at my parents house. That way I can't look in the box unless driving for 20 minutes What bothered me most of all were the digital photos I had. They always kept poping up at my screen. I clicked a wrong folder or anything and there was the thumbnail of her. So, I simply burned all the photos on a CD and deleted the photos from my computer. Also took all our songs and her favorite songs and burned to the same CD. Guess there will be plenty of time for Zeppelin after I get over her Of course that CD is in the box at my parents and I tend to keep it there until I'm over her and I've met someone else. Actually it changed a lot for me to get rid of the after shave she gave me and I used the most. The smell had Julie feeling in it and now I don't have to smell it again
frannie Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Depends what the relationship was like, and how it ended, and whether I'm over it Sometimes I just keep the stuff and use it and it's fine... most of my break-ups have been amicable and there's been no problems. Maybe sometimes I'll put things in a box and take them out now and then for sentimental reasons but over time the things usually lose much of this sentimental appeal... they're just something to remind one of other days. And mostly they get thrown out eventually. My LAST boyfriend the whole thing, including the break-up, was an ordeal!! Some of the things I burnt ceremonially lol... some of them I kept in a refuse sack for a few years uncertain what to do with them... eventually I just left it out for the refuse... yay! Then I knew I'd finally healed from the whole thing.
Arianna72 Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 In general I don't get rid of anything an ex has given me. I have my ex's paintings on the wall and things he made me all over my house because I like them. I can't imagine burning things that I care about. Of course I also have a tattoo he did so it would be a bit tough to get rid of that. If something brings up painful feelings I will store it away till a later date. I keep these "memento boxes" in storage and when I am feeling all nostalgic about my life I go through them. If a thing no longer holds the same weird feelings I will either get rid of it, or put it back to use.
Author ultimon Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 My first ex's stuff are in a box collecting dust somewhere in my parent's house. But today, i had to toss out all the love notes and some small gifts (including some clothes) from my recent ex, into the dumpster... i just felt so betrayed after finding out the real reason she broke up with me...sigh...after 2 months of NC, i am totally back into day 1. tomorrow i'm gonna see if I can donate some of these stuffed animals to the local hospital.
lovesagame Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 I think it's very important to get this stuff out of your sight. I packed them all into a box and detained it in my cellar. Years later I see through it, read the letters, watch the photos... When the grief is gone, you are able to learn a lot about yourself from those things.
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