Guest Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 hi everyone. Just need a little advice. I met this gorgeous/friendly/amazing man on xmas eve and have been talking every day since then. I really like him, and have been holding myself back a bit from being the one to make first contct with him as I dont want to come across clingy or something. I just want to go with the flow. So we went out for lunch the day after boxing day which went (for me) amazing. At the end of the date he asked me when could he see me again, and have planned to have dinner tonight. He even messaged me after our first date to say he had alot of fun with me, and hes looking forward to tonight. My question is, (and I think i know the answer but i guess i need reassurance) that does it sound like hes pretty keen? Is there any tell tale signs that hes not ready for a relationship, (and just wants a friendship?) I guess im worried from previous experience with my friends and stuff that hes going to turn around and say 'oh im not ready for a g/f?" One other question... when is too soon to kiss him. If the oportunity arrises tonight, should i take it, or should i wait for him to make the first move? hehe gosh i sound so childish.. any advice on second dates would be great. thanks!! oh and happy new years!
Cinnesyn Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 You're already thinking about a relationship with this man? Is it possible that you've done this in the past and scared him off? Like you said, go with the flow. Don't rush it. Follow his lead. Don't act cold but don't act like you want to marry him tomorrow either. As for kissing, GO FOR IT if he tries to kiss you. If he doesn't, don't worry. If you want, you can make the first move and kiss him on his cheek but only if he doesn't make a move to kiss you. And... don't go to bed with him for a while. Some women make the big mistake of thinking that sex will get her the man she wants. Some guys see sex on the 2nd date as "geez, she hardly knows me and she's already in my bed. I wonder how many other guys she's done this with...". Good luck!
Lei Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Like you said, go with the flow. Don't rush it. Follow his lead. Don't act cold but don't act like you want to marry him tomorrow either. As for kissing, GO FOR IT if he tries to kiss you. If he doesn't, don't worry. If you want, you can make the first move and kiss him on his cheek but only if he doesn't make a move to kiss you. And... don't go to bed with him for a while. Some women make the big mistake of thinking that sex will get her the man she wants. Some guys see sex on the 2nd date as "geez, she hardly knows me and she's already in my bed. I wonder how many other guys she's done this with...". Yes, she's right! I go for her. Just be yourself. ;D that's all I can say! lol:laugh:
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