theplastickid Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Ok I am going NC on my ex, she already deep down knows she is making a mistake i think. She admitted to her friend when she broke it off 2 weeks ago and said "who knows in a months time maybe i will realise i have made the biggest mistake of my life". Anyway... my family is moving over to ireland on the 8th. I have a new flat here. However I have told her that we are renting the flat out and that I am going to live there. She then proceded to say she wants to bring the puppy dog round so it can say bye to my mum and sister wtf!!! she knows my mum and sister hate her... she then says she wants to say goodbye to me, so i said "no, we have said our goodbyes". thinking back a week ago when i said goodbye and she would not look at me or even hug me properly. Do you dudes think this is a smart move? I am wondering will she come and say goodbye regardless before I go and maybe ask me to stay. Or will it take a couple of weeks away in Ireland or maybe more...
Author theplastickid Posted December 29, 2006 Author Posted December 29, 2006 my thoughts on this now are that the ball really is in her court... if she wants me she will contact me if she dosn't than i dont want her either...
chryssy83 Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 If she calls and says she wants you back in a couple of weeks will you move back from Ireland?
Author theplastickid Posted December 29, 2006 Author Posted December 29, 2006 If she calls and says she wants you back in a couple of weeks will you move back from Ireland? lol that will depend on how she is...
chryssy83 Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Then I think moving sounds like a big game!! You said the other day you were moving because it's what is best for you. Honestly, are you moving because you think it'll make her sorry? I did that...I moved away from my friends and everyone I knew to get him back. It worked--he came back. And I STILL wouldn't recommend it.
Author theplastickid Posted December 29, 2006 Author Posted December 29, 2006 Then I think moving sounds like a big game!! You said the other day you were moving because it's what is best for you. Honestly, are you moving because you think it'll make her sorry? I did that...I moved away from my friends and everyone I knew to get him back. It worked--he came back. And I STILL wouldn't recommend it. well... i do need to go for a break so in that sence it is good for me and i may love it and not want to come back but i am also hoping it may bring her back.
Author theplastickid Posted December 29, 2006 Author Posted December 29, 2006 argh she comes on msn and i just want to message her instantly...!
Author theplastickid Posted December 30, 2006 Author Posted December 30, 2006 i am so crap I cant go NC. I have exchanged txts with her every day since the break up, even down to little things like... she texts me saysing she needs to pick something up I text back ok when and she texts back im really busy today so i text back OK.
Author theplastickid Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 I seriously belive I am hanging on to false hope here... But I love her so much... its almost as if she hates me for no reason I have done nothing wrong and she just does not want to be with me, I sence there is a little tiny bit of me there with her but she seems to of almost forgot about and thrown 99% of it down the drain. I love her with everything! and she did not love me the same, how come? This is so unfair. I know I have to move on with my life but I can't its so hard, I had planned to stay here in my new flat with my gf. Live happy, loving her. And all of a sudden I have just been thrown out on my ass the day before my birthday and left with nothing in this world. I am now moving to Ireland because there is nothing left for me here, I have never felt so betrayed and s**t on in my entire life. How ON EARTH can someone do this to someone!
whispervale Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 plastic, Moving away -is- a big deal, but as others have pointed out, there's only one question you have to ask yourself: Are you moving away for you or for her? There's no need to cling onto false hope. There's plenty of true hope around.
Author theplastickid Posted December 31, 2006 Author Posted December 31, 2006 plastic, Moving away -is- a big deal, but as others have pointed out, there's only one question you have to ask yourself: Are you moving away for you or for her? There's no need to cling onto false hope. There's plenty of true hope around. I think deep down I am moving for her. The me part only comes in because if I stay here and I see her I will be so crushed. Or if I stay here and hear her friends telling me how she is with someone else or whatever that will crush me too. However I am also thinking that she may see me moving as a way of abandoning her like I don't care. Yes she finished it with me but she wants her cake and eat it BIG TIME!!! She says she just needed time and what will be will be. This does seem to me more like her guilt free way of telling me to FU*K OFF. Or her way of saying "wait there and if I feel lonly in a month or so I can take you back" but this hurts me the most that she could think so little of me. I dont know what to make of it. A girls opinion would also be nice. I also thought that with this whole "what will be will be" thing. Even if I do go to ireland if she realises she loves me that much she will ask me to come back... but she may not out of guilt so I am very confussed lol.
Author theplastickid Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 argh... my first day back at work. I seem to be coping ok. I spoke to her via IM last night because she said a couple of days ago she would like to say goodbye. I said no there is no point we have said our goodbyes. So last night i said to her if you want to say goodbye you can... she said no maybe i was right before when i said there is no point. So i just said see how you feel and let me know, you know where i live and you know when i am going. I now must just sit back and wait to see if she contacts.
Author theplastickid Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 God I miss her so much, I just want to go to her after work and beg its hard here at work without my mums support
Author theplastickid Posted January 2, 2007 Author Posted January 2, 2007 oh my god my friend just told me my ex's friend keeps calling him asking if he want to go out with them two. She just broke up with her boyfriend i have no doubt she has strong influence over my ex and her decisions
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