Anastasia0309 Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 So, I'm currently in my 4th month of my breakup and through this very hard road of healing and baically finding myself I have found that I'm questioning so much in my life. Like one question is..... What is Love? What truely defines Love. I've Googled it and sometimes I wonder if the way I loved my ex is true love and sometimes I wonder if my love is conditional. Is true love unconditional? What would you say LOVE is?
johan Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 I love you whether or not you love me I love you even if you think that I dont Sometimes I find you doubt my love for you, but I dont mind Why should I mind, why should I mind What is love anyway, does anybody love anybody anyway What is love anyway, does anybody love anybody anyway Can anybody love anyone so much that they will never fear Never worry never be sad The answer is they cannot love this much nobody can This is why I dont mind you doubting And maybe love is letting people be just what they want to be The door always must be left unlocked To love when circumstance may lead someone away from you And not to spend the time just doubting
Rooster_DAR Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Nice poem... I think true love is being best friends and lovers, and only after two people experience the pitfalls of commitment, and are able to hold things together do you find true love. I can tell you what true love is not, it's not the first couple of years together when infatuation is at it's peak. It's about many things like commitment, compatibility, compromise, romance, reliability, respect, and true partnership. To me it's about the little things, like spending time together knowing you and your parner can fart in front of eachother and laugh about it, and sharing many aspects of lifes situations together. It's about relying on your partner in times of crisis, but not relying on them to cater your own sense of happiness and well being.
jusified Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Agree with eveything Rooster has said. It is lso when times are tough you are still committed and know that you still love that person no matter what. Its all ideal but not many people are like that.
johan Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Nice poem... Thanks. I get creative like that sometimes. I even teared up a little while I typed all that out.
amaysngrace Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 I even teared up a little while I typed all that out. Uh oh...you look rustable... You okay?
johan Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Uh oh...you look rustable.. My alloys have no iron in them. I made sure of that when I selected them.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 My alloys have no iron in them. I made sure of that when I selected them. Nice....:laugh::laugh:
climbergirl Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Nice poem... I think true love is being best friends and lovers, and only after two people experience the pitfalls of commitment, and are able to hold things together do you find true love. I can tell you what true love is not, it's not the first couple of years together when infatuation is at it's peak. It's about many things like commitment, compatibility, compromise, romance, reliability, respect, and true partnership. To me it's about the little things, like spending time together knowing you and your parner can fart in front of eachother and laugh about it, and sharing many aspects of lifes situations together. It's about relying on your partner in times of crisis, but not relying on them to cater your own sense of happiness and well being. I agree with this--especially the last sentence. And in addendum (and a good litmus test if the relationship will be a good one).. Being with someone who motivates you to want to be a better person. With that encompasses; respect, acceptance of you as an individual, support, and a selfless appreciation for who their partner is. If all that is flowing by both sides......that, to me, is true love.
Touche Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 You love me when I don't show you my best. You love me when I'm the very best I can be. I love you when you don't show me your best. I love you when you're the very best you can be. Imperfect as we are, we accept without question. We accept through thick and thin. We've accepted each other for the last 12 years. I never thought in my wildest dreams that I'd get this lucky. You laugh with me. You cry with me. You dream with me. You complete me in so many ways. You know I'm not perfect. I know you think I'm a flirt. But I know you know that I'd never cross the line...that fine line. The line on one side that says "I love you. And we belong to only each other." The line on the other side that I sometimes dance across. I'll never cross it. I've never crossed it. The line that exposes my neediness and my ego and my insecurities and is facilitated by my addictions. That invisible line that irks you. I may dance across it sometimes. But I'll never cross it. I love you heart and soul. I always have. You've always treated me like the goddess I think I am, as you put it. You've allowed me that fantasy. Having been treated as less than that in the past, you decided that I should be treated as a goddess. You may laugh and mock it but the bottom line is that you DO treat me like your goddess. I can only hope that you think that I treat you half as well as you treat me. Because if that's the case than you're one LUCKY man! Thanks for everything, honey. I love you. Your wife.
burning 4 revenge Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 You love me when I don't show you my best. You love me when I'm the very best I can be. I love you when you don't show me your best. I love you when you're the very best you can be. Imperfect as we are, we accept without question. We accept through thick and thin. We've accepted each other for the last 12 years. I never thought in my wildest dreams that I'd get this lucky. You laugh with me. You cry with me. You dream with me. You complete me in so many ways. You know I'm not perfect. I know you think I'm a flirt. But I know you know that I'd never cross the line...that fine line. The line on one side that says "I love you. And we belong to only each other." The line on the other side that I sometimes dance across. I'll never cross it. I've never crossed it. The line that exposes my neediness and my ego and my insecurities and is facilitated by my addictions. That invisible line that irks you. I may dance across it sometimes. But I'll never cross it. I love you heart and soul. I always have. You've always treated me like the goddess I think I am, as you put it. You've allowed me that fantasy. Having been treated as less than that in the past, you decided that I should be treated as a goddess. You may laugh and mock it but the bottom line is that you DO treat me like your goddess. I can only hope that you think that I treat you half as well as you treat me. Because if that's the case than you're one LUCKY man! Thanks for everything, honey. I love you. Your wife. :laugh:
vanButterfly Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 I am doubting myself about what I felt and if it was love. I struggle to accept my ex getting drunk and his lies when he does it. If I love him I feel I should have accepted it. How far do you go when it is no longer love but you are a door mat? Times are tough but how do you stay commited? Love is conditional I think. You expect them to not do certain things that will jeopardise the relationship. If trust/respect/etc in a relationship is compromised, then is it love that you are staying, or stupidity? At the end of the day you need to always love yourself more. I can love someone as much as I can, and be there for them, but if they are abusing it, then I'm an idiot.
doublem316 Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 IMHO, love is when you put someone else's happiness before your own. My ex partner did that, which is how i know she really did love me, but love just is'nt enough...you need to provide the other persons needs as well. Although she has moved on and i am slowly doing so, it gives me comfort to know i was loved once. "It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all" is indeed true.
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