Guest Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 I have a problem. Everytime I'm talking to a guy I can't help but to introduce them to my bestfriend. My bestfriend is the biggest flirt in the world she's constintly talking about sex and so forth all the things guys wanna hear. She knows what shes doing and she laughs about it when I say something about it and says how dare i asume her of doing something like that. All the guys end up wanting to talk to her and i'm just left there hanging. They always come back and tell me shes coming on to them and all of that non sence. Is it me or is she doing this on purpose? Please tell me if i should get back at her and how to get back to her because i've already confronted her about it and she thinks its a game. please help
roxy_1980 Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 Sinking to her level does not help you. My suggestion: Wait until the relationship is more solidified before introducing guys to your best friend. And before you do making intros, tell your guy ahead of time that she's a major flirt and that they just ignore her come-ons, cause nothing will come of it anyway.
BlueEyedSarah Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 I have a problem. Everytime I'm talking to a guy I can't help but to introduce them to my bestfriend. My bestfriend is the biggest flirt in the world she's constintly talking about sex and so forth all the things guys wanna hear. She knows what shes doing and she laughs about it when I say something about it and says how dare i asume her of doing something like that. All the guys end up wanting to talk to her and i'm just left there hanging. They always come back and tell me shes coming on to them and all of that non sence. Is it me or is she doing this on purpose? Please tell me if i should get back at her and how to get back to her because i've already confronted her about it and she thinks its a game. please help Wow...nice best friend!
Lonestar Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 I think it's time you get a new best friend. Either that, or start acting like a ho to grab the attention away from her. If she really was your friend, she wouldn't hit on guys that you were interested in.
Grrlish Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 If a guy is your boyfriend and he actually leaves you to start dating her, then good riddance in regard to the guy. Maybe she's not such a bad litmus test for the guys you're thinking of dating. If your 'friend' has actually begun dating someone under these circumstances, or even begun dating someone that you were in the process of getting to know and to see if there was relationship potential, then she's not your friend. If she's really done this, why are you still hanging out with her at all? If she hasn't done this and the guys are just drawn to her, what kind of friend are you to hold that against her? If guys find her attractive, it's not fair for you to hold that against her or expect her to act differently (at least not much). One of my best friends was jealous of me for YEARS. I'm the most loyal friend you could ever hope for but guys would be drawn to me when we were out, and she felt shadowed. She would get mad at ME! I'm happy and I laugh and smile a lot. I can hold a conversation with just about anyone. She, on the other hand, used to clam up and would get all 'tight'. Either be comfortable with yourself as-is or...maybe you could learn a few things from her. I'm just sayin'... If she's talking in the gutter, that's one thing. If she's talking about things that guys find more interesting, well, good for her. What are you trying to 'get back at her for'? If she really did something that you feel is inappropriate within the context of your friendship, then just eliminate her as a friend and you won't ever have to think about it again. Simple, really. I don't have friends that I can't trust when my back is turned. Too many other things to worry about and to think about in life. I've never understood the 'get back at someone for something' attitude. Karma will get them in the end. So will the fact that if they're really a bad person, people won't want to be friends with them. Don't waste your time and energy trying to figure out how to 'teach someone a lesson' or trying to change them - not to mention bringing bad karma upon yourself. I'd suggest giving this some thought: Is it about her? Is it about you? Is it about the guys that you're picking out? Once you get your hands wrapped around it, make some decisions and take action. If you really feel that she's stealing your boyfriends, dump her. AND start spending time with guys who won't ditch you for one of your friends.
IpAncA Posted December 30, 2006 Posted December 30, 2006 If you really feel that she's stealing your boyfriends, dump her. AND start spending time with guys who won't ditch you for one of your friends. Good advice here. Lose the friend because she isn't a friend to you.
pinksugah Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 your girl friend is insecure...you may confront her and stop introducing her to your guys =)
dropdeadlegs Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 She is no friend of yours if she cannot control herself in these situations. You have confronted her about it, maybe something more like "do it again, and we're history" will get her attention, but I doubt it. She is an attention whore and that type of person doesn't change overnight. She will likely spend years involved in the chase of men and will discard them once she catches them. I feel sorry for her, and more sorry for the men. Dump this girl, she's like a form of cancer. Cut her out of your life! Real friends don't do this to their friends. And don't come back saying how you've been BFF since 1st grade and she has been there for you on so many occasions. She isn't being there for you now, and that's what matters. Just my opinion.
Island Girl Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 I agree with most of the others here. She isn't your friend. And she laughs when you try to talk to her about it? About the hurt you feel? Not a friend. Lose her - hang out with friends that want the best for you and are as understanding as you are. The boyfriends get bonus points for telling you what she is up to. Some wouldn't.
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