confucious Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 Some of you may have seen my previous posts, some not. Either way - me and my gf are emerging from a break (initiated by the GF after an "enforced" break by me), thoughout which we have both been very sparing with our feelings and contact. We have decided to crawl back into the relationship rather than jump head first though we have both stated we want to try again 100%. KNown eachother six months now. I am seeing her tonight but am missing her crazily right now and am tired of stifling my feelings with the thought it may scare her away. Have written the following but not sent it - should I go ahead and be honest, or play cool and keep my head down. I told her I missed her two days ago and we said we loved one another though things, naturally, remain strange. Please let me know what your thoughts are... I miss you Rachel. I miss US. I miss our camaraderie. I miss how we laughed and brought sunshine to people's lives. I miss laying in your bed, fully clothed or not... I miss our plans for the future and sharing thoughts on our past. I miss knowing where we stood and why we stood there - I know time will tell, but still I look back... I miss when we felt less like strangers and more like companions on a long dusty track. I miss the time when saying these kinds of things felt natural and I didn't wonder if I should. I know you're there, I know you are...but I still miss you. I wondered if I should write this - wondered if it was time. But a friend of mine said recently "we could all go tomorrow, or today, for that matter"...I guess like most cliches it is cliche because it's true. Yes, I am smiling today - it's sunny and beautiful, and my clients are happy. But my smile doesn't keep me from thinking, through the hours of the day, how much I miss the woman I love.
notmakingsense Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 This is a common mistake -- spilling our guts to someone who may not be deeply attracted to us. This will make the situation even stranger. My suggestion is to simply have a good time with her. Be light, funny, and show her through little actions, not words, that you love her and miss her.
Author confucious Posted December 28, 2006 Author Posted December 28, 2006 Thanks notmakingsense....I think you are right - I was all caught up in the moment and had to keep myself from hitting the send button. managed to refrain for an hour, long enough to get your reply which confirmed what I kind of thought, that I shouldn't send it. It sucks to feel "weak" and out of control, I have felt like this for a week now and keep thinking it would be easier just to end things for good cause then I could be sure of something...but I think that's just giving up and running away - I'd rather feel like I tried for something I wanted. blah blah blah blah blah...hehehehhe, this whole scene has turned me into a raving idiot - I think I complicate things too much - just give her space like you said but let her feel loved so she doesn't fear coming back...and no, don't spill guts. Thanks mate. Confucious.
shawn_68 Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 I agree with NMS. The very last thing you want is pressure. Spilling your guts adds pressure, whether you intend to or not. Showing that you care through actions is much better. Light and funny is always good.
Grrlish Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Confucious, I hope things went well last night! While the thoughts you wrote (above) are wonderful and should be expressed, these things don't need to be dumped out all at once, in an email. These things are best coming as live words from your lips, at appropriate times.
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