slimmontana Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 Hey everyone, I met this girl about a year ago Lets call her V..she gave me her business card and said if I had any interest in a loan to call her..I had no interest in a loan but I had plenty of interest in her...I couldn't do nothing at the time because I had a off /on girlfriend and we were on at that time. I gave her a call at her job and basically asked her for her # she didn't give it to me at the time. So I thought that was the end of me hearing from her. Then a couple of weeks later I'm in Florida with my girlfriend and I get a call from an unknown # its her..I didn't pick up just herad her message...but now I can't go out with her because of my girl..so me my girl have one of our many fall outs in Dec of 05 so me n V are just cool then one night she gets drunk after her office Xmas party..I asked her to come over she says ok..but she is drunk and has no clothes on I come over expecting her to be dressed she opens the door with just a t-shirt on! To make a long story short we end up doing some physical things...then I reconected with my girlfriend again and proceeded to date her until our relationship ended in October. So now I'm chatting with V and she basically tells me she would like to go to Florida with me ..I would love to go with herr but its inconvenient for me at this time..She tells me she hasn't recieved a Xmas gift in awhile so I got her a gift certificate to Victoria's secret and a bottle of her favorite liquor..Outside of the one night she was drunk nothing has happened with us physically and one time she asked to come over and do it again..My whole thing is I have no clue of is this girl feeling me..She is very attractive has no problem getting men..she says she wants to stay single so she can focus on her career..I understand as I am doing the same thing...The one night she was drunk I wanted to leave she pushed me to do stuff to her..That was our first time ever hanging out!! But now with the whole Florida trip thing..I know I wouldn't go to Florida with someone in such close proximity unless If I didn't have some sort of interest..it seems like the more blah she gets the more I want her..I'm confused..does she want friendship? Sex? Relationship in the future? Help me out Love shack!!!
Gala Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 My recommendation is that you need to get to know V better before you do anything like go to Florida with her. Your involvement has been discontinuous, and it doesn't sound like you really feel her interest. In that case, don't invest -- emotionally or financially -- in a trip before that's the case. You also may want to get a sense of how often this woman gets men to give her things like trips to Florida...you don't want to be played. Lastly, after all the on-off with your ex-girlfriend, you may need some more time to chill. Good luck!
Author slimmontana Posted December 29, 2006 Author Posted December 29, 2006 Thanks Gala, She is paying for her half of the proposed Florida trip. I just wanted to go down to c family and she invited herself. So there is some interest. Im going 2 take things slow n then her true feelings will start 2 show. I will not get caught up with her emotionally thats setting myself up for heartache.
SouthernT Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Question for everybody......When a guy says "i'm not looking for a relationship", women have learned (the hard way) thats exactly what he means...HE DOES NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP. But when a Woman says it....why doesn't it mean the exact same thing?? I think either she doesn't a relationship and just wants somebody to hang out with or she is making you chase her and to "want her even more" and from the sounds of it.....its working. LOL mabye I need to give that a try.
Author slimmontana Posted December 30, 2006 Author Posted December 30, 2006 Yeah i'm pretty sure she doesn't want a relationship I don't want one either but I don't know if she expects me to go all the way out of town with her with nothing physical happening Especially with us being in such close quarters...I think that would end our budding friendship right there. I will not chase her that would not help my cause. The more of an enigma she is the more I want her!
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