amandapants Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 My ex-boyfriend and I broke up over a year ago after dating for about a year. We met in college and had mutual friends, which kept us moving in the same circles, so that even after we broke up we still hung out a lot and ended up hooking up every time. After college we both moved back to our respective homes - about an hour away from each other, but still managed to meet up on weekends and hang out... and hook up. I moved to NYC this past summer and he came to visit me for 5 days, where we ended up acting more like a couple than just friends with benefits. People have always told me that if you continue to hook up with an ex at least one person still feels something. I still do, but is it possible that he still has feelings for me too...or is this just a horny guy thing and he's comfortable with me so he hooks up whenever he can?
Guest Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 I just don't think someone who travels an hour and stays for 5 days is just horny...at least I'd hope not...I say ask him directly. I know, easier said than done. I haven't followed my own advice yet, I'll tell ya that! I just mean, maybe ask him about the 5 day visit and maybe ask, did you have fun, how did it make you feel, something along those lines...if a guy did that for me, I would assume he wanted more than benefits...but that's just me..good luck
norajane Posted December 29, 2006 Posted December 29, 2006 Sounds like he's getting as much free and easy sex as he wants from you, plus a free place to stay (and sex!) when he visits New York. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but if he wanted something more like getting back together as bf/gf, he'd have mentioned it by now. Since you've moved, what kind of relationship can you have long distance? Is he planning to move too?
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