crazygal Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 I am new to here,thought it'd be a good place to express my emotions and let stuff off my chest... I am almost 22, have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and have been seeing another guy for 1 and half years. My boyfriend has been abroad for the last year and the affair started from being friends with the other guy and falling for each other. How I feel about my bf is not affected by my feelings for the other guy - I am v.happy with my bf. but I am in love with this other guy-I absolutely love being with him in every way. problem is i know it's wrong and needs to end but i'm scared of losing his friendship - i feel like it's all or nothing - i cant not be with him and just be his friend. anyway,now this other guy has met this girl at uni (btw,other guy is still at uni, I live about 200miles away back at home) who he likes. but it hurts like mad to think of him with her (they havnt got together yet since she's his boss) I know that the best most logical thing to do would be to step back and let him get things going with this other girl and for me to just be with my bf. but i still love this other guy and am not ready for things to end. then again, when will it end?! my bf is back from abroad in a few months so I'm assuming that this affair has to end then because we will probably get engaged soon after.. everything is so messed up.to top it off I am a week late for my period... I am going to see the other guy tomorrow morning - I want closure and to end things. I wanted to do it face to face rather than phone/email but I do realise that once I get there and see him and we kiss I just won't be able to do it! So many times I have gone to see him with the intention of ending things but just can't do it when we're together - that's also what makes me think that we can't just be friends. any comments? p.s. I know for sure that I love my bf, am completely happy with him and want to be with him forever.
sadbuttrue Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 if you love your boyfriend and want to be with him forever, then this other relationship must be over. it is hard to keep these things secret forever. if you are pregnant that will definitely raise some suspicion for your bf. if you are so happy with bf, then u shouldnt need anything from this other guy.
puddleofmud Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 Though your current fling may be a really nice guy and may deserve better it may be best that you not see him face to face and simply end it with a phone call. That way there will be no temptation. If you really care for him you will let him go on w/ his life and whatever and whomever makes him happy, after all that is what you are expecting HIM to do for you. You have a fall back love so why shouldn't he? And you wouldn't want to be strung along if things were reversed so take the high road and be the better person and let him go.
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