Inadvertently dating a fling's friend? OOPS!

[Guest]

I hooked up (one night of not-so-great sex) with a guy over the summer, we'll call him Z. Z basically led me on and wound up treating me like crapola. I realized what a jerk he was, what a huge mistake I had made, and moved on quickly. The experience was not worthy of remembering, and he's really not all that nice of a person. Quite honestly, it was something I wanted to forget.

 

Anyway, months passed and I met another guy at a bar one night out with some friends, we'll call him A. I felt like I recognized him from somewhere, but couldn't place his name and face. We ended up kissing and kinda making out that night. We later added each other on MySpace... it was then that I saw A and Z are old friends from high school, and had seen A here and there on Z's page during the time Z and I were "whatever."

 

A and I have kept in touch via MySpace and texts and a few random meetings here and there (where literally nothing happened) since meeting. A and I are fairly flirty and whatnot, but I didn't think it would really progress any further. Z would occasionally email or text me as well (I get the feeling he thinks he has me wrapped around his finger - which is SO not true), but I thought "ugh, he's such a jerk!" Between these two, ever since meeting A my interest has been totally with A, NOT Z.

 

A and I hung out without anything happening again, and another night last week he came over and we hung out watching movies. We ended up making out again, but again, no sex. Part of me is worried that Z might have told A "dude, she gave it up easy to me, she'll give it to you too" or something. Is that just paranoia talking? BTW - Z is 25 and A is 27.

 

A said he had looked at my myspace page and found out we had a few friends in common - one of them being Z. He seemed focused on how I knew Z. When he asked how I knew him, I said simply, "He's totally unimportant. It doesn't matter."

 

But does it?

 

Also, I asked Z about A a few months ago, basically testing the waters to see if it was okay with Z that I was interested in A, and Z basically had this whole "I don't care what you do" attitude... but I get the feeling A might.

 

So how do I approach this?

[Star Gazer]

I'd suggest somehow bringing this up with the guy you do like, but in a joking lighthearted way. If he's really interested in knowing the truth, he'll probably ask again...