Tejas240 Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I met my wife of 18 years in high school. We had a child togehter one year after graduation and have never split or even talked about it. I discovered she had an eating disorder about two years into the marrige. I have talked to her about it and have strongly suggested she seek some professional help. She refusses to deal with it. I have come to a point in my life where my feelings for are beginning to fade. Not because I want them to, but I cant take her ignoring the disorder anymore. I guess I should explain at this point. My wife controls her weight by forcing herself to vomit. It is a giant turn off to me. I watch her binge and then she heads for the bathroom to get rid of it. I don't understand it, but I've tried. I don't know what to do anymore. If she doesn't address the problem soon, I may have to giver her an ultimatum, get help or I'm out.
Guest Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I would tell her how it makes you feel and how it is affecting your relationship. I would also try the ultimatum route if she still refuses to do anything about it. This may or may not work. Don't know if you are a believer or not, but prayer is powerful. You know, nothing is too big for God. He has never let me down. He may not give you the result you want, but it will be what he wants for you.
Guest Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 she probably disgusts herself. Most bulemics do not want to do this. She needs professional help. Ask her if she will go to get help and offer to go with her. Pray for her and with her. Like the previous poster said, give it to God...He is bigger than anything in life.
LegalEyz Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I am in what I feel to be a similar situation, however, my H uses drugs and I feel at wits end about it all. I thought I had it all under control, left him for a month and recently got back together. What I have learned over the 11 years we have been together, ultimatums only work if you make them work. If you throw empty threats out time and time again, it gets harder to give the ultimatums because they do not feel that you are serious. I am back in a situation where I gave my H the ultimatum to get help or get out, today actually. I feel prepared to stick to my decision which is if he doesn't get serious help immediately (like tomorrow) he is out. I would prefer to be alone than to deal with this disease when the person with it doesn't seem to see how it is not only destroying himself, but the people around him who care. Try the ultimatum if it is your first time, it may actually work. If it is words that have been thrown around for years, it may take serious action. Can you back that up if she refuses to get help??? I will pray for you.
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