Guest Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I have been married for 16 1/2 years and i am so miserable. He never shows no love toward me and tells me to go find someone else all the time.And he even tells me to go date men to he dont care no more is what he says . I cry all the time i cry so much that i wont even hardley eat no more i have lost 25 pounds in 2 months . i need some good advised please help me . I am so depressed because i never thought my marriage would go so bad. We have one 16 year old son. And i am really scared for my son because he knows that i am falling in love with someone else and that i am going to leave his dad right after we get our tax money back. My husband tells me to go all the time and find a new man. I dont no what i have done so wrong to make my marriage so bad that i have tried to take my on life . I go to a new river metal help center to help me with all my depression. I am so miseralbe here. ( do you think i will ever be happy again with a new man in my life ?) ( what about my son what shall i do ? how is he going to take it ?) ( do you think i will ever feel loved again ?) please help me a i am so miserable ! But when i talk to my new man i feel so happy inside !!
whichwayisup Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 Divorce your husband instead of cheating on him. After 16 years of marriage, don't cheat on him now. Have you two gone to marriage counselling? Tried to work on things together? I just fear that you're going to end your marriage and later be full of regret, wishing you hadn't left your husband without trying your best to fix things. You both owe it to your son to try to make it work - If it doesn't, then talk to your husband and end it. I also think the OM in your life has stolen what you feel for your husband. That love and intimacy, is there but has been taken over by lust and sexual desire. Think before you do anything rash.
Sup Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 I agree, perhaps there's something mentally wrong with your husband, I don't know if he's Bi-polar, or what. Get him checked out by a Doctor, FAST! Have you ever given him any reason to believe that you would cheat on him, not saying that you have. But whatever you do DON'T cheat on your husband, if you were to find out years later that it wasn't HIS fault, YOU'LL feel like crap for the rest of your life. That kind of thing can never be taken back, or made up for, EVER!
Guest Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 I agree, perhaps there's something mentally wrong with your husband, I don't know if he's Bi-polar, or what. Get him checked out by a Doctor, FAST! Have you ever given him any reason to believe that you would cheat on him, not saying that you have. But whatever you do DON'T cheat on your husband, if you were to find out years later that it wasn't HIS fault, YOU'LL feel like crap for the rest of your life. That kind of thing can never be taken back, or made up for, EVER! i have tried so hard to get him to go to a marriage council but he wont and i have never cheated on him in my life . thanks for your opionion
Sup Posted December 31, 2006 Posted December 31, 2006 i have tried so hard to get him to go to a marriage council but he wont and i have never cheated on him in my life . thanks for your opionion How about the Doctor thing? You know, a mental Doctor or something.
jojo6557 Posted January 1, 2007 Posted January 1, 2007 Wow, this sounds like me 8 months ago. After 13 years of marriage, my H kept saying the same things. Go find someone else, get yourself a boyfriend. He was also emotinally abusive as well. Little did I know he was saying this because he was having an affair with his co-worker. I also was so depressed I lost a lot of weight becasue I could not eat. We tried to work on the marriage but it didnt work. So, I took his advice and found myself a boyfriend. I changed so much. My new man made me feel all the things my H did not. In the end, I filed for divorce, and my H is begging for me back. No way in hell will he ever have me again. I am now living alone, raising my children, and waiting for my divorce to be final. When it is, I plan on making a new life for me and my children. My H is now alone, miserable and depressed. I just dont care. Call me cold, I just call it karma. Good luck, and if your new man makes you feel happy, then go with him. Life is too short to be unhappy!
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