Guest Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I was with my ex for 4 1/2 years and we loved each other very much.He had to go away for a year with uni and 5 weeks after he went i went to visit him.We had a fantastic time him telling me how much he loved/missed me but after me being there 4 days he suddenly said it was over that he wanted to concentrate on work/uni. He told me he still loved/was in love with me but that he needed to be on his own for now and that if he wanted a g/friend again it would be me he chose.We broke up nearly 4 months ago and the 1st time he came home we spent some time together.He tried to kiss me and was saying have i made the right decision but he stuck with it anyway. Since he went back we havent had much contact i think for the best.Christmas eve he turns up at mine with his family and his parents have got me a card and a bag of presents.We just had normal chat but it seemed really awkward as if we hadnt spent them years together. Im getting on with my life but do people really act like this when they break up even when they are still supposed to love each other.Its like hes become another person and i find it hard to see him like that when he was so loving and caring.What do you thinks happened with him?
whispervale Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Hi, Everyone changes over time - it's probably the only constant thing in the universe. Going away to university can be an exciting time for some, especially if they've never left home before. They're seeing the world in a whole new way and it changes the way they look at people. He may still love you, but it's probably best that you give him the space he needs. If he comes back to you, then that means he was always into you. If not, then you really don't want to be with him anyway - he will eventually change so much that you might not be able to recognize the guy you fell in love with.
Guest Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Hi, Everyone changes over time - it's probably the only constant thing in the universe. Going away to university can be an exciting time for some, especially if they've never left home before. They're seeing the world in a whole new way and it changes the way they look at people. He may still love you, but it's probably best that you give him the space he needs. If he comes back to you, then that means he was always into you. If not, then you really don't want to be with him anyway - he will eventually change so much that you might not be able to recognize the guy you fell in love with. I can see what you mean.I suppose we had such an intense relationship and nothing or no1 else mattered.He also has really strict parents who he is constantly trying to please. I suppose in 1 way its been like an escape for him,being able to please himself if and when he does things with no1 telling him what to do.Also he will have met lots of new friends and is finding lots of new exciting things to do. I suspect he may have his eye on some1 else but he says no but im not so sure because he doesnt seem like the same person.I just find it so strange that within 5 weeks of being away he can throw a perfect loving relationship away and then act like he never went out with me. I dont suppose i will ever truly find out his reasons but i think/hope im over the worst of it.Thanks again.
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