AurorasStar Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 So it's amazing that it took this guy nearly a year to finally ask me out on a date. We've been in a few classes together but I hadn't seen him a few months. Then, Friday night I get this random call from him asking me out for a drink with his friends. We go out, have a good time and he wants to hook up with me on Christmas. No family outings, just us. I agree and we ended up going to a movie late Monday night. I initiated that "date". So here's my thing- I really want to go out with him again. I don't want to freak him out by calling or texting him all the time, nor by wanting to spend too much time together- BUT... Sunday is New Year's and although I have a potential date I'd rather it was with my new guy. I'm very 'traditional' (ahem, afraid of rejection) and don't ask guys out. I'm more of the hint type of person. That's one reason why it took so long for us to finally have a date in the first place- the first time he asked me out a year ago I had to say no. Thoughts- should I ask him? Hint? Leave it be?
dropdeadlegs Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I'm a traditionalist in many ways, but I say ask him. What have you got to lose? I do wish he would ask you first, though....New Years Eve is my anniversary with my BF. He did ask me, but I was glad he did! And we had some history too. Good luck, whatever you do!
Ironman75 Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 You know I read your post and thought she got good advice from dropdeadlegs so I'll leave this one alone. But then I read it again and you do like so many women. You said you really like him. That you had a really nice time with him and you would like to see him again right. And from what you said he seems to be a nice guy. So why the games. I don't want to call him. But I want to call him. I want to spend time with him. But I don't want to spend time with him. WHY? Why do so many women do that. Look at it from the guys point of view. If you don't know what you want to do. Imagine what kind of signals your sending him. Mixed ones I'm sure. So now instead of him knowing how you really feel he's lost. And so are you and no closer to getting what you want. So my advice is this be REAL let him know you had a great time and you would like to hang out again. Go out on a limb and ask him out. You won't scare off a man that can see what you see. But you need to clear up some of the fog your bring with you and your confusion. I'm not saying put it all out there but give him a glimpse of how you feel about him. Contrary to public opinion men have feeling to. And we just as scared of rejection as women are. And get rejected alot more often then women do as a whole. At least thats what I heard. LOL LOL. So don't start things off with games because you will get games in return. And I know you don't want that. I hope this gives you a little help.
Guest Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 well, in my case, she knows i can't call her! so, we don't even have to discuss that one - thats solved already [by her - lol] and if she doesn't that's ok - she's probably hooked up already - no one waits forever u know!
alphamale Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 you should go with potential date you already have setup. make him take you to fancy-schmancy party where tickets are $150 each. dress real sexy so he thinks you want him. then give him nice peck on cheek at midnite. then make him take you home and drop you off. then when he calls again tell him u had fun but there are differences between u 2. then call the guy you like and go out with him after NYE so it will be less pressure and then you can have fun and then get married and have babies
Star Gazer Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Ugh, don't ask the new guy. Do exactly as Alpha says... asking the new guy out for NYE will put too much pressure on the two of you. IME, guys think of NYE very much like Valentine's Day - there's expectation of romance and allathat crap involved, and you don't want him to feel pressured this early in the "relationship."
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