insomnie Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 For epople in relationships, it seems all the holidays are good for is stress. It's easy to get carried away with visions of cozy Xmases, perfect presents, romantic winter evenings, and sexy New Years. I think epople have high xpectations for this time of year (not to generalize, esp. women, myself included) and consequently this time of year sevrves as a kind of ruler for where we are in our relaitonships. One perosn might be at the let's-send-cards-out-togehter-and -visit-both-our-families stage, while the otehr feels suffocated by thepressure to live out a holiday greeting card, and it becomes so easy to feel stressed out and disappointed. As well as to come to conclusions such as if you loved me, you'd want to do this. I see so many people breaking up this time of year and I wonder if it's because of these unmet expectations. And whether that's a good thing, whether all this is merely a wakeup call for incompatibility and/or moving in different directions, or if we're all just victims of advertising. Thoughts?
alphamale Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 I see so many people breaking up this time of year and I wonder if it's because of these unmet expectations. its an extremely stressful time of year for most people even under best of circumstances. this time of year is huge for suicides. the best thing is to keep your expectations low then you won't be dissapointed. but i do agree that how couples handle stressful times is indicative of the strength of their relationship.
Amalphia Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 I definetely agree with the stress being exceptionally high at this time of year but I think that this is the time of year for people to look at their relationships and decide if they are right. For the ones who can handle the hiliday stress you will be just fine (until next year LOL). Good Luck to all.
Aloros Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 Yikes! I always thought the holiday season was a nice time to take some time off and enjoy your friends, family, and SO. My bf and I celebrated Christmas together on Saturday - opened presents, lazed about - and then went off to visit our respective families and celebrate Christmas with them.
allina Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 I think epople have high xpectations for this time of year (not to generalize, esp. women, myself included) and consequently this time of year sevrves as a kind of ruler for where we are in our relaitonships. One perosn might be at the let's-send-cards-out-togehter-and -visit-both-our-families stage, while the otehr feels suffocated by thepressure to live out a holiday greeting card, and it becomes so easy to feel stressed out and disappointed. As well as to come to conclusions such as if you loved me, you'd want to do this. This is so true. I have seen so many women in competition over who's bf gets them a more romantic gift, who shares a more romatic, picture-perfect Holiday season together. I have a friend who has been with her bf for 4 months and pretty much demanded a specific pair of diamond earrings My only relationship issue has been working and not being able to see him and his family enough I have to brag and say that my little Christmas (which we celebrated on Sat evening) with the bf was perfect, nothing over the top but perfect :love: :love:
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