lbluv20 Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 Hi there, SO i have been trying to search for some example that even comes close to my situation ,and i just cant. THat makes me very sad. I have been married to my husband for three nad half years. When we were married, we had only been together for six months. We got married becuase i needed a way out. a way out of my current life situation and he offered it to me. we were married with in two weeks of decideingto. no wedding, just the good old justice of the peace. He had faults i recognized, and i questioned it constantly for the whole two weeks leading up to it, but i didnt see any other way. even through the ceremony, i was screaming inside, HURRY UP AND GET IT OVER!! I dont even remember what the judge said, i was so busy in my own head. I would tell my self, If it doesnt work out, i can always get out. I had to make a way out in order to make it be ok. I love my husband, and we have a beautiful son together, But nothing about our marriage is in anyway normal. I have never been interesting in sex, we were virgins when we got married. IT feels like a burden to me, i only do itfor him. I hvae thought at times it would be nice if he had a woman on the side for the sex and me for marriage. THAT IS SICK!! I have never felt passion towards him. I keep imagining an arranged married and how they sometimes eventually fall in love. I just feel i am getting more and more lonely and confused. I dotn know what to do. I dont even know if my marriage has a chance. I cant imagine leaving, but i cant imagine itworking either! HELP!! any adive or just some one who can relate would be nice AB~
C&M4ever Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 If you have any belief in God I would suggest beginning there and asking Him for some guidance. Marriage should not be entered into lightly, but it should be given every possible chance to survive..in my opinion. Youshould perhaps start with talking to your husband and seeing if he feels the same way and if he is interested in helping you help yourself. You may want to consider counseling and get a better understanding as to why you have no sexual interest in your husband, why you dont want to leave but foresee doom? I wish you the best truly. I think marriage is awesome and given the right amount of nurture and attention, it can thrive and be wonderful. Good luck to you.
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