phat_mike Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 Greeting all I have been working where I work for a year now. There is a girl who works in admin who I like alot. I have told her that I am in love with her and all of that but she said she doesn't see me in that kind of way, just a very close friend. We are often going to the cinema. Sometimes, we even park up and just chat for hours about anything. We also enjoy hugging alot (we are both going through a rough time as we have both just lost mates). But we always seem to be close. So anyway, two or three days ago we went to the cinema as friends and we were hugging in the car just before she dropped me off home. I said 'Can I have a kiss aswell?'. She said no because she has a cold and then we parted. Then she sent me a text message that basically asked if I was serious about the kiss, so I replied with yes. She then said if she had known that then she probably would have given me one. So I basically asked why if she didn't like me in that kind of way and she said she is unsure how she feels about me. She listed some of, what she would consider to be, my best qualities and said I am not usually the type she would look for. I'm not sure if she meant physically or emotionally. She keeps saying that she is confusing herself and me and she doesn't know how she feels - I know and she knows how I feel about her though. We are going out somewhere to have a chat about things tomorrow. What should I do? I'm thinking about trying to woo her by giving her an intimate hug and a kiss - I know she would let me give her one. I think this is the perfect opportunity to show her how much I love her. I have asked some friends and they suggest I just go for it. Obviously my main concern is that she is happy but I want her to know how happy she could be with me. I love her so much I could never show her, and that upsets me loads. Can anybody else offer any advice on this situation?
Guest Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 the key to all this as i see it is that she id unsure of how she feels about u but has given u the green light for a smooochies - what that tells me is this - the kiss is about both of you - she will know immediately from the kiss whether what u are telling her is true and whether that removes the uncertainty in her mind as while. treat it as the one kiss u will ever have in your life and do so naturally - your body language and her reaction will tell u both all you need to know. sending u both positive vibes
Guest Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 I'm going through the same thing right now. We are very close and we have hooked up but not recently because she wants to sort things out. We are best friends and I'm in love with her. She says she only likes me as a friend but I think she is a little confused right now. At least that is how I read it. At the same time there is another girl who I believe is into me and we are also close friends. I am try very hard to win the first girl and trying not to hurt the second girl. I'm ready to freaking explode. I cold be happy with the second girl, I think she is great but it's the first girl who I want and that is the gist of my situation. I'm just sitting back and waiting and hoping for the first girl while trying to maintain my friendship and some distance with the second girl. Good luck to the both of us.
Author phat_mike Posted December 26, 2006 Author Posted December 26, 2006 the key to all this as i see it is that she id unsure of how she feels about u but has given u the green light for a smooochies - what that tells me is this - the kiss is about both of you - she will know immediately from the kiss whether what u are telling her is true and whether that removes the uncertainty in her mind as while. treat it as the one kiss u will ever have in your life and do so naturally - your body language and her reaction will tell u both all you need to know. sending u both positive vibes This is what I was thinking. If she is unsure then there must be something there for me. Thanks for your help
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