Kelso Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Hello everyone - First of all, I want to wish you all a merry Christmas and hope that you'll all have had a wonderful time. My ex and I broke up about 2,5 months ago and I felt devastated for the first weeks. All I did was wandering around at home thinking about how I could possibly get her back. I really cared for this girl, but unfortunately for me, she didn't care for me as much. I have this friend who is a major player. He has a lot of phone numbers which he has gotten from girls while partying. Anyway, one day I was just feeling bad and called him just to talk. He came fed up with my crap. Told me to change clothes and 10 minutes later I picked me up and we went for a beer. He told me that I had to let her go. Then he asked me for my cell and randomly picked some number from his cell and started texting this girl from my phone, pretending to me. It might sound creepy in the US, but in my country, that isn't that creepy at all Well anyway, I just laughed at him. About half an hour later he gave me my phone back and told me to continue. I just lauged again...and asked him if he was serious. Well, he was and I continued texting this girl. Now, a month and a half later. We're still texting and we've met few times. We haven't been on a date yet, although I asked her last night. And of course she said yes. I'm getting the feeling that she is really into me, a lot more into me than I am into her. Although she is a beutiful and nice girl, I just can't feel any sparks or butterflies. I don't get excited at all when I receive texts from her. She is 19 and I'm 23 and I keep comparing the age difference to my ex. My ex was 2 years old than me and had her own place and was a lot more like an adult. I can't deny that my ex is quite high in my mind especially during the holidays. But I also know that it probably was a good think that we broke up, for the future sake. We probably would break up in the future, but I still look out for her and think of if we'll ever be back together. Still I know that if we'd get back together now, I would probably only be delaying the pain :S What I am so afraid of is to get into a romantic relationship with this girl when I can't feel any sparks at all. She might feel some and I don't wanna break her heart. I've had my heart broken after a short relationship before (october) and I definetly don't want to break hers. Although I like the texting and flirting, and would like to continue that. I still don't want her to like me too much :S Long story short. Been texting and seeing this girl for past weeks. Still like my ex although I don't want her back. Don't want relationship with new girl although I'd like to keep texting and meeting. All because I don't wanna be a heartbreaker. What do I do. I don't wanna be an ass
Guest Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Seems like you know in your heart already what you should do... also sounds like you need more healing time, and not a "rebound" relationship. I'm a 19 year old girl as well, don't break her heart! If she is going to school you guys will probably be going your separate ways soon anyways, so if you are debating on breaking it off do it before both of you get too involved. I also just got out of a year long relationship where I didn't feel "sparks"-- what a waste of a year! Wait for the one that you can't live without. Stay single, party hard, have fun and let time heal... then and only then should you worry about getting back into a relationship!! =) Hope that helps.
Grrlish Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Seems like you know in your heart already what you should do... Stay single, party hard, have fun and let time heal... then and only then should you worry about getting back into a relationship!! If you're not all that interested in her, you should consider not dating her and discontinuing the TMs. She's probably thinking that you are pursuing her for a relationship, and it sounds as if you already know you don't want one with her. So, let her off the hook sooner than later. It will be the best thing for her, and for you. If things go on and she falls for you, then you'll have a mess to clean up later.
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