caring guy Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Bit of a rant this, but this is 1st xmas in ages i been realy alone, no parents etc or family. I have a friend, a girl, we're just sex buddies & agree at that! But i want something more, with someone else, who i dunno. Last night i went to my local bar & it was jam packed & full of people i know, just i felt alone, as most were all paired up & i felt old at 33 & there were nobody there my age that were prospective partners. Each year i go there for xmas eve, i see my 1st school love, we have a hugg & kiss & i want to rekindle things, stupid i know. She has a bf now anyway. I texted her this morn saying if your free, i'm here. Am i right in saying that crowded loud bars aren't the place to meet people, i just felt it uncomfortable, false & i felt a loner. I usualy meet people in unusual places like buses, shops or just in the street. Christmas can be a lonely time, i know & i hope anyone who reads this & is lonely, will be ok. cg
Rooster_DAR Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Bit of a rant this, but this is 1st xmas in ages i been realy alone, no parents etc or family. I have a friend, a girl, we're just sex buddies & agree at that! But i want something more, with someone else, who i dunno. Last night i went to my local bar & it was jam packed & full of people i know, just i felt alone, as most were all paired up & i felt old at 33 & there were nobody there my age that were prospective partners. Each year i go there for xmas eve, i see my 1st school love, we have a hugg & kiss & i want to rekindle things, stupid i know. She has a bf now anyway. I texted her this morn saying if your free, i'm here. Am i right in saying that crowded loud bars aren't the place to meet people, i just felt it uncomfortable, false & i felt a loner. I usualy meet people in unusual places like buses, shops or just in the street. Christmas can be a lonely time, i know & i hope anyone who reads this & is lonely, will be ok. cg Yup, I know exactly what you mean. All my friends are married and moved on, and it's really lonely trying to do anything by yourself. I just came out of a 5 year relationship, so I've been cast out into the lame lonely world. D'oh! It sucks.
Lights Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 I know the feeling. It's moments like that when having an existing group of fellow unattached, local, schedule-compatible friends of similar mind comes in handy, but I've never been able to arrange that myself, even if the cost of doing so in this culture was acceptable to me. It might be cool if one could set up a "hell with the holiday celebrations and relationship junk that goes with it" gathering, not unlike the "Bitterfests" that I've heard of that went alongside Valentine's Day dance events in one's younger years, although to do so would require having such people on hand and sufficient common interests and a will to do the same (rumor has it that people can get pretty desperate for a kiss at midnight on New Year's Eve, so it's not necessarily going to be easy to find people who will say hell with it all). I don't know about bars full of couples, but then again, I've found bars and damn near all of nightlife to be an infuriating waste of time and resources.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 I don't know about bars full of couples, but then again, I've found bars and damn near all of nightlife to be an infuriating waste of time and resources. Perhaps, I still like going out to bars once in a while especially with friends. For the most part, spending too much time is bars is a waste of time to me as well.
Author caring guy Posted December 25, 2006 Author Posted December 25, 2006 It is to me also, it's just, unless your underage or old, decrepid & unable, it's impossible to do anything on xmas eve as far as meeting people, friends, maybe meeting a girl, guy, unless you go to a bar! Period. It's the culture in England i know. I lived in Texas & found the odd bar shooting pool, but never tryed to meet anyone as i was with someone!, but i don't think the culture is the same, mainly family orientated! I used to look for as many kisses as i could when i was like 18 at NYE midnight, & fantasize about how it could be more, lol! Now, i stay away from that, it's all too depressing to contemplate Some don't think of it, they just go out single & have a good social chat & a beer or 5. Yeh, it's a waste of time, so maybe i'll go down the local supermarket or hang out in a bus station on NYE. The other option is here on the pc lonely! cg
Teacher's Pet Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Don't feel bad. I'm a bartender, and last night my bar was basically filled with single guys. Maybe 6 women all night came in, and 2 of them were with a date, and 1 was a complete drunk (came in drunk from another bar) Misery loves company, I guess, and as the single male bartender, didn't help any for those guys, I guess. Highlights of my evening were my usual flirtations with the day-shift bartender (she's hot as all hell!), and flirting with the drunk chick, just because it's fun. -tp where everyone knows your name
alphamale Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 I'm a bartender, and last night my bar was basically filled with single guys. most of whom were ner-do-wells I would suppose
Author caring guy Posted December 26, 2006 Author Posted December 26, 2006 Hey, this bar was full of girls, it's a seasonal thing, hundreds meet up, just i felt alone for some reason, maybe because i was! I have a bar full of people i know drinking lots & getting nowhere!, but i have no alternatives. Don't get me wrong, i love a night out, but to meet someone, noo! I'm off to bed with a large Jim Beam & a valium, thats all i pulled. Send your single girls to Sheffield, the steel city! cg
Porn_Guy Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 Christmas can be a lonely time, i know & i hope anyone who reads this & is lonely, will be ok. cg boy you're telling me! my company for the holiday is some new porn dvds
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