Guest Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 That I haven't ever really gone out with anyone who I met in real life?? I've only met my dates/gf's thru the internet. It just feels so wrong. It wouldn't be too bad if I had real life experiences before and now I resort to online dating for the sake of convenience, better choices, etc. But that's not the case. I just never had a real A to Z relationship. I've had B to Z I suppose? Is this something that me, a 30 yr old guy, should be worried about? It totally bothers me and the biggest effect it has is that I refuse to date online now. I have this agenda of finding someone in reality. But I really don't think it'll ever happen. I never got over my high school shy nervoius phase when it comes to gettin the ball rollin' with someone, but oddly I am fine once I've gotten past that, which online takes care of that part with a lot less pain. I'm asking how YOU would feel if you were like me. Or if this was your partner we're talking about? It just feels so unhuman. I feel like I'm a computer age byproduct, you know, just thinking that I've never "gotten her number, had awkward experiences, had failures". Everythings been so, I dunno, calculated, as if I'm purchasing my dates on Amazon. I know times have changed and meeting your S.O. online is no longer taboo, but still, NEVER having had a real life.. encounter?? Weird?? Abnormal??
Brian18 Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 Nah man I don't think it's abnormal or anything. I'm a really really shy guy and I know how easy and comfortable it is talking online, or even sending text messages instead of talking on the phone for example. I am horrible at meeting girls, because I find it hard to start a converstation/keep a converstation going. i did however meet a girl at a restaurant one night, but it was when i was drinking, so the converstation came a little bit easier than normal. if you go out to a bar, or to a party or something, try having just a few drinks to loosen up a little bit, and the conversation seems to just keep coming. don't drink too much where you are slurring your speech and talking about stupid ****. just a little get things goin. also, try writing things downs that would be good converstation starters, or things that you could talk about. don't forget, the girl has to talk too, so she'll be able to help keep the converstation going. once you come to a pause in the relationship, ask her for her number, or if you can see her again. THE WORST SHE CAN SAY IS NO. and you'll most likely never see her again so who cares? i know it's not easy, but before you go out, try to think of things that will make it just a little bit easier. hope this helped a little. good luck!
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