frannie Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 I was just mooching around LS and found these urls posted in another thread. I thought they were quite interesting and useful (!) given the topics broached on the previous page: http://www.drjoecarver.com/articles_loser.html http://www.drjoecarver.com/articles_stockholm.html This is the original thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t105615/
BUTAFLY Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 The bad ones can come in some pretty packages. Heck, my xMM is an ordained minister. If you can't trust a man of the cloth, who can you trust????? Mine Ex"mm" is a deacon! He told me he was single! Many people on LS thought I was kidding. I had/have a really hard time with trusting also and I constantly questioned faith. If you can't trust 'man of the cloth' who do you trust?
frannie Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Well, a position where you have a lot of attention from others, and are looked up to and generally admired and your word taken as Gospel probably suits a lot of people who like to wrap others round their fingers. (I should point out that I'm in no way anti-religion or have a downer on wo/men of the cloth)
Freedom Now Posted December 25, 2006 Posted December 25, 2006 Yes, my xMM is an ordained minister. He also told me he was not married. We prayed together and read the bible together. I saw him as my spiritual mentor. I thought he was the one God chose for me until he told me he was married. There are no words to describe the pain and shock I felt when he admitted his marital status. Nope. I don't trust anyone anymore. But, the good news is: I walked away from HIM, not the other way around. I took my power back. And it feels pretty good. God will take care of him. I am sure of it.
BUTAFLY Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Boy that pisses me off. I too read the bible with him. I was not a church goer but he kept pushing me to bible study with him & he would read scriptures to me. Get this...We went shopping for a new suit and shoes for this big church convention....the big convention turned out to be his WEDDING!! how sick is that? I am waiting for God to deal with him too, but its not happening fast enough for me.
Freedom Now Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 Oh man, I hear you sister. My MM was a counselor in his church and I can't count how many times he took calls from church members giving them marital advice with me, his OW, sitting next to him. Worst part: he would get off the phone with his Christian friends and kiss me and hug me and tell me how much he loved me.... God isn't dealing with mine fast enough either....
scaredinlove Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 I don't feel like starting any romance any time soon. I just ended a bad marriage and still in the middle of ending a A. I am still involved emotionally with him, although we don't talk much, and his family is keeping harassing me,I just recieved a letter today intented to my ex H, they left a message chrristmas eve, and I saaw MM car driving in my parking lot and I think his wife was with him. Until I get rid of this people I don't see how I can meet anybody else. I also lost total trust on myself where it comes to chosing man. I thought my husband would br ok and it was a disarter. I thought MM was the love of my life and unfortunatelly I still think he is, but he is to chicken to chose me.And before this two I was involved with a bunch of other loosers. So what I want to do now is to be on my own untill I can clear my mind to avoid hurting myself again. The other reason is that I cannot imagine myself in bed with other man , I still feel like MM is the only one for me. I know I have to move on and I am, I am not talking to him much, not seeing him and missing him less, but it will be a while before I can see another man. I got so deeply involved with MM that I have to make a total detox before I can see someone else.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 You should grieve over your M and the loss of MM...don't get into something else until you're healed...
scaredinlove Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 You should grieve over your M and the loss of MM...don't get into something else until you're healed... That is what I am doing, grieving, letting go and getting strong.Until them I will be on my own.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 And there's nothing wrong with that...look at it this way...when you were with mm, you were pretty much alone too...(right? or not?)
Guest Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 some people struggle getting over my ex, when they have new boyfriend simply because they haven't been honest. i dated someone 15 years ago that felt so guilty that she had found another man while being with me, it really messed her up - so, i helped her out by telling her i knew and it was ok, and wished her happiness. today, she is happily married and has had 3 children with this man and all the things she did to get me to leave, she stopped and corrected once she knew that i knew and wished her well honesty is wisked.
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