bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 One week till move in day. Starting to get a little nervous. Going to be a huge change for everyone. She called alittle while ago and told me she was droping of the bikes. Got a knot in my stomach. How can I be so excited and worried at the same time? I think part of it is people know her divorce isnt final yet. Most people who know us both say go ahead. Yet others say we are doing wrong by the kids.
kymberann Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 Do right for you and soon to be live in! Kids are resilient! If you and GF(?) provide a secure and safe place for kids, they will adjust. Beside you aren't living with the ones who think you are doing wrong, so what do they know! HAve fun and no worries until they move in! Best
Chapter2 Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 Some advice is good...too much advice is just plain confusing. You need to do what the two of you think is best. Of course you're worried~~it's a huge adjustment irregardless of the circumstances. Try not to project and stay in today...this day. Don't you love it when people tell you to do almost impossible things? One week till move in day. Starting to get a little nervous. Going to be a huge change for everyone. She called alittle while ago and told me she was droping of the bikes. Got a knot in my stomach. How can I be so excited and worried at the same time? I think part of it is people know her divorce isnt final yet. Most people who know us both say go ahead. Yet others say we are doing wrong by the kids.
movinon05 Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 Stay strong. Be united together. Give yourselves time. It will all work out. Adjustments are a part of life. Frig everyone else.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 Stay strong. Be united together. Give yourselves time. It will all work out. Adjustments are a part of life. Frig everyone else. Agree 100%!
Author bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 Adjustments are a part of life. Granted, but we are talkng about HUGE changes. The girls are so use to how they have to act around their dad that its going to take some getting use to at my house. They have gone to bed at something like 830pm for the past few years because thats about the time he got home. Summer, weekends, didnt matter. They havent lived with their dad in a couple months and they still are going to bed at that time. My kids, WHOLE different story. No school the next day? Youngest is up till 2am playing guitar. They are use to having a very quite house, my house is filled with music, yelling ( not in anger, but my boys and i do get loud. ) laughter. We wont even get into the toilet seat
movinon05 Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 How old are the girls? Hey, there's nothing wrong with structure. But there's also something to be said for a house full of life! Relax. It might be a culture shock for them, but as long as its filled with love, what bad can come from that?
Author bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 they are 6 and 12. I really am looking forward to it, but its going to be different.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 We wont even get into the toilet seat Yeah, men don't seem to get that concept...
Author bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 Yeah, men don't seem to get that concept... Yeah we do. If its up it doesnt get wet. See we get it.
Author bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 Well, YOU get it... Yup, seat stays up unless its needed down.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 Okay, you don't get it...chicks don't like their butts in water...
Author bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 Okay, you don't get it...chicks don't like their butts in water... And they dont like sitting on a wet seat.
alphamale Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 personally I dont' recommend living together BONEHEAD....assuming thats what you're planning on doing. Its usually a mistake.
NoIDidn't Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 Bonehead, I actually don't have a prob with the toilet seat in my house. I figure if you look before you squat, you can make the adjustments necessary. I think men/boys get a bad rap on this. Simply, if a man can put it up to use it, why can't a woman put it down to use it? Sorry, GEL. BTW, good luck with the move in. I myself don't do the live-in thing, but even as a child I experienced it so no judgments from me on that. I think the kids will love it, and will have good experiences from it. It will be good for them to not have to feel like burdens for being kids and making noise - once they get used to it. Good luck and Happy Holidays.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 And they dont like sitting on a wet seat. I guess we're at a stalemate then...(I can't think of a witty comeback)...
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 NID: You can't tell me you have walked into the bathroom in the middle of the night and not gotten a wet surprise? Or am I the only toilet-seat challenged one here?
Author bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 I think the kids will love it, and will have good experiences from it. It will be good for them to not have to feel like burdens for being kids and making noise - once they get used to it. Hopefully it wont take them long. But can you imagine the shock when they realize that its ok to be loud, laugh, play with the dog. And the way I am with my boys is really going to floor them. Their dad plays alot of poker on line. When he is on the computer you better not bother him for ANYTHING. I hd to walk away from the computer the other night to help my youngest figure out finger placement on his guitar for a song he is learning. I try and be very approachable by my children. NOTHING is more important then them. I dont care if its homework or helping them with their instruments, Im there
MuffinMan Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 How did you manage being able to cohabitate with the children? One of the agreements I had to make for shared custody of my kids is no cohabitation while the kids are at my house, unless I'm married of course. My mom has custody of my younger sister and her boyfriend can't stay with her while my sister is at home. I'm just wondering how you managed this.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 OMG-I would never have agreed to that MMan...Wow the south sure is behind the times...
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 No disrespect meant to you at all MMan...
Author bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 How did you manage being able to cohabitate with the children? One of the agreements I had to make for shared custody of my kids is no cohabitation while the kids are at my house, unless I'm married of course. My mom has custody of my younger sister and her boyfriend can't stay with her while my sister is at home. I'm just wondering how you managed this. She wasnt told we couldnt,
MuffinMan Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 She wasnt told we couldnt, Damn, maybe I need to revisit this issue. I'm glad I read this thread. By the way, everything is going to be great. How old are her kids? I was amazed at how well my kids adjusted when I moved out of the house. I tried to make everything as close to home as possible so they didn't see much of an atmospher change. My kids are 2 and 4 so they are pretty young and get comfortable around their surroundings. They have made a very good adjustment.
Author bonehead Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 Her kids are 6 and 12. Mine are 13 and 16. Nice thing is that they do all get along really well.
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