Breaking NC at Christmas

[Lostandfound]

An interesting one here, Christmas is traditionally a time for love and respect, a time for giving , a time for receiving.

 

NC is designed to heal the break up process and in some cases makes the ex partner who broke things off , really miss you, and wonder why there is no contact.

 

Would you agree that this should be continued over the Festive season, or is it the done thing to make contact with a brief call or email, or sms, wishing them well. Or even reply to a contact that is made by the ex partner, if one is made.

 

Everyone in the world remembers the past year at Christmas and New Year time, so forgetting is no excuse, but would like to guage opinions on this.

 

Have a Great Christmas everyone!!

And a loving New Year

[fooled]

NC is NC. During Christmas, spend time with those you love and who love you. People who make you happy and whom you make happy. Don't play NC games with an ex - especially a recent one.

[mav100]

I agree - N/C is N/C regardless of holidays, birthdays, you name it. There is no reason to contact your ex to wish them a happy holiday. If they feel anything for you, they will contact you....

 

However, it is my intent that on the off-chance that my ex tries to contact me over the holiday to just let it go to VM and let her stew. Let HER wonder why I didn't answer the phone and didn't call her back.

 

I think the only VALID reason to break N/C would be a death in the ex's family, and that would just be to send your condolances, nothing more.

[devon1]

I would agree. NC is NC. Unless they come to you. Don't do anything.

[uksteve]

I think that NC means NC too!

 

Best not to take a call or reply to a text. It will just open a can of emotional worms (!!!) and spoil the day for you.

 

You will feel stronger and more objective if you are strong about the NC.

[notmakingsense]

The only reason to break NC at Christmas is because the holiday gives you more of an "excuse" to try to get a response from your ex. Same goes for birthdays, etc.

 

Just don't do it -- NC is designed to protect you from the hurt of not getting a response, or from getting a response that doesn't fulfill your needs. The holidays are an especially tough time to heal, don't make it even harder by opening up the chance that you will get re-hurt by a lack of a meaningful response from your ex.

[stanchain]

Dang... wish i would have read this post before i sent out a broadcast text message and included her

[Guest]

after on whole year, i guess i will never know what happened to her - did she get married, was she single, did she ever think about me, did she ever know how much i loved her?

 

so many unanswered questions, easily solved by one call or meeting - i guess that will never happen too

 

i wish she knew that there is nothing that would be impossible - and nothing that was a problem

 

nothing from the past that impacts the present - she just doesn't get that.

 

i don't know why that is

[stanchain]

Because if she is anything like my ex... she is selfish and is only concerned with her happiness.. forget that I was doing everything I could do to make her life wonderful... there is this joke i heard... i goes:

Me and her have one thing in common... we both do everything in our power to make HER happy

after a year though.. forget about it... i am going on a month and a couple of weeks and I have loss all hope. sorry that you are feeling pain bro...

[fooled]

An alternate version of that joke is: We were both in love with the same person - her.

 

Hope everyone is doing well! Now is the time to stop thinking about her or him and focus on the more important person - YOU.