JLO22 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I have been dating this guy for four years and I finally called it quites. When he had me he did not treat me with the respect I deserve. - He cheated - I saw text messages to other girls in his phone - He even saved another girl in his phone "My Wifey" - We are in a LDR (When he come down to visit me he would go to his boy house and spend most of the weekend with him doing what only the LORD knows what) So one day I got tried of it had threw in the towel..... now he want to get back together he calls me every so often. I know I am a good girlfriend!! So my question his.. Why do guys do what they do and then when it over they want it back... You never know what you got until it's gone!
jusified Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 First of all I am sure you are a great person and a great girlfriend. I looked at how I acted in my relationship and thought about what did I do that needs improvement. I did come up with a few things. 1) Why did you get involved with some one like that in the first place? (if he rather hang out with his mate, text othe girls etc...why not break it off or work on it earlier? be picky) 2) Did you do anything in the relationship tht needs improvement? thats just wat i think, because i think if you look at these things objectively, it doesn't matter what your answer is your next relationship could only be better.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I have been dating this guy for four years and I finally called it quites. When he had me he did not treat me with the respect I deserve. - He cheated - I saw text messages to other girls in his phone - He even saved another girl in his phone "My Wifey" - We are in a LDR (When he come down to visit me he would go to his boy house and spend most of the weekend with him doing what only the LORD knows what) So one day I got tried of it had threw in the towel..... now he want to get back together he calls me every so often. I know I am a good girlfriend!! So my question his.. Why do guys do what they do and then when it over they want it back... You never know what you got until it's gone! The same reason girls do what they want to do and then expect their BF's to hang around. This is a fair statement, although it doesn't answer your question.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I have been dating this guy for four years and I finally called it quites. When he had me he did not treat me with the respect I deserve. - He cheated - I saw text messages to other girls in his phone - He even saved another girl in his phone "My Wifey" - We are in a LDR (When he come down to visit me he would go to his boy house and spend most of the weekend with him doing what only the LORD knows what) So one day I got tried of it had threw in the towel..... now he want to get back together he calls me every so often. I know I am a good girlfriend!! So my question his.. Why do guys do what they do and then when it over they want it back... You never know what you got until it's gone! Lose the guy, he is an idiot if you ask me.
Author JLO22 Posted December 23, 2006 Author Posted December 23, 2006 What do you think about this?????? OK here goes! THIS MIGHT BE A LONG ONE!!!! I need help trying to figure out what I should do?? I broke it off with my EX eight months ago after dating off and on for 4 years. I love him so much he even went to jail (1 year) and I was their for him before, during, and after jail....... When he got out he treated me as if I was his personal ATM. I finally got tired of it a year and half into the relationsip after he got out of jail and called it quits. I did not mind helping him because before he went to jail he would jump a bridge for me and did the same thing I did for him. I notice the more I help him the less he would help his self. But what really made me throw in the towel. In his cell phone I saw that he had another girl saved as "My Wifey" and one other time before I saw that he text messaged his EX and said that he "Love Her".... Which by the way she called me and told me she want nothing else to do with him because she has moved on to better....... (INTERESTING) That further made up my mind to leave! Of course I confronted him about it he try to sweet talk me and I was not having it. He even told me once when he get his act together and his life back before the jail incident. "I would be the one he settle down with and marry!!" I am not no fool that listen to guys BS and that comment lead me thinking he was cheating and not true to me. So I decided to get away from him...... But I think about him consistley and I love him so much. I am not sure if he love me the way I do. ONE THING..... The guy I moved on with his my ex's friend..... Well it's my EX's-cousins' bestfriend. My EX and current BF dont speak unless they go to band practice. It's safe to say they know of each other but are not close. I AM NOT NO HOE OR ANYTHING!!!!!! LETS MAKE THAT CLEAR. My BF now does not make me feel the way my EX's did, he never have time for me, make plans and breaks them. I live in DC and my BF lives in FL. When I go home I expect to see him and go out!!! When my EX found out that my current BF and I was dating he was so upset and was talking craziness out the side of his neck. I never knew how he really really really felt about me until he called me in a ranged when got word that my current BF and I were dating. I miss him so much, I see that he made some progress in the past eight months (got a JOB, his own place, and a new SUV) So anyway I called my EX up and I told him I want to tell him something but I need to tell him face-to-face. I will be in town for Christmas!! He said he will picki me up from the airport. I guess go grab a bite to eat and chill. I just want HIM BACK. I want to apologize how I carried the situation and just work on our friendship again if nothing else. What do you think I should do? Do you think he will take me back?
Guest Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 may i ask u a few questions, and u do not have to answer them if u wish 1. So anyway I called my EX up and I told him I want to tell him something but I need to tell him face-to-face. I will be in town for Christmas Q: is this something you would like to do and if yes, how would u propose we arrange this? over a meal would be nice. 2. In his cell phone I saw that he had another girl saved as "My Wifey" and one other time before I saw that he text messaged his EX and said that he "Love Her".... Q: how accurate is this statement? yes, i say i love u to my exwife, but i say that to my duaghter, and family - it is not the same as saying it to your woman? 3. The same reason girls do what they want to do and then expect their BF's to hang around. This is a fair statement, although it doesn't answer your question. ONE THING..... The guy I moved on with his my ex's friend..... Well it's my EX's-cousins' bestfriend. My EX and current BF dont speak unless they go to band practice. It's safe to say they know of each other but are not close. I AM NOT NO HOE OR ANYTHING!!!!!! LETS MAKE THAT CLEAR. Q: my ex gf said she would be honest with me if i asked her about something like this, so that is what i would like to know, just the relevant information i don't need to know about anything sexual - please. thank u
Trialbyfire Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Firstly, I don't believe men truly realize what they have until they lose it. Btw, even if they get you back, doesn't mean they will continue appreciating you. Be careful with this guy. He sounds like a very selfish person. Selfish people rarely change.
Author JLO22 Posted December 23, 2006 Author Posted December 23, 2006 So What Do You Think About "5" Posting?
Trialbyfire Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I think you're headed for more trouble. Perhaps someone with more experience in this type of triangular relationship would be of better assistance.
Woggle Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 It goes both ways. Many women don't realize it either. My ex did not know after the divorce how badly she screwed and by then it was too late. I can take some arguing and things like that but once my trust is betrayed there is no going back. As for myself I know what I have and I know the woman in my life is one in a million. I would do almost anything to make her happy because I know she would do the same.
daphne Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Jlo, I think you're being very naive. Neither your current boyfriend or your ex sound like winners. If you're ready to get hurt more, by all means take your ex back.
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