pureinheart Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Well the "stalker family" did it again.....but thanks to all of the replies I was able to prepare myself..... Anyway the little stalkers threatened me....not with bodily harm, so I don't have a leg to stand on there....they did threaten my job though....they sent this disgusting email to my work email....the security message came on first...all email is monitered. So I went to the big manager and told him the whole sorted story....man am I lucky the management is so protective of me....he was more concerned about my well being and wanted to know if MM worked there. I have been so scared for a really long time that I could loose my job over this....I mean I would be finished....being 46 it is difficult to start over. But my manager assured me everything is ok. MM might not be ok though once security reads that email .... if any of you, in reading my posts find any similarities with MM/MW run now...here is a sample of what the "little darlings" had to say to me..... 1. Why did you delete your myspace account 3. What were you doing with our father all these years 4. Did you know my dad cant get it up? <~~Thats what mom says... I hear you waited 3 years to be with him and you still havent... its not you its his penis 6. Does your pastor know? Your therapist 7. Do you care that you are a homewrecker? 8. I thought I told you not to delete your myspace... I have your email what dont you understand about that? Do you not read well 9. What makes you think that this family is crazy? Is it cause we live in the devils territory? Anyway, that is a very small portion....and some of the "nicer" questions....these are some very sick people, so like I said....get out while you can.... The thing I don't get is if they have known for a year, why now? After it is apparent that there is NC w/MM? Did MM give them the green light in some way to mess with me.... He is in the same boat I am work wise and knows....
whichwayisup Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I would scare them back, get the police to go their door and tell them you have a lawyer and you're going to file harrassment charges against ALL of them. Or, just keep on ignoring them. You need to change your email address. Home and work, if possible. And block them too if you can't change your work addy. This is pure bulllcrap what they are doing.
NoIDidn't Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Something must be going down with their parents right now and they need someone to blame it on. You need to change your cellphone number ASAP! And give it to no one that might give it to him. Get a new phone and keep the one you currently have. You can forward the calls that you want and have it block the others. I just get the feeling that this isn't over. Please, please, please get local law enforcement at least notified as I see this escalating in a bad way. No one should have to go through this. Not even an OW. This family is nuts. Just NUTS. I bet they even know that you post here. You should check your computer for strange cookies and delete your cache. They may have emailed you some spyware (its possible). Not trying to make you go all paranoid, but it pays to be vigilant. Please consider telling someone IRL about this. Especially the cops.
puddleofmud Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Sounds like its HIS delayed male anger. He can't have you so he is causing any problems he can. Thank goodness your work place cares for you! DELETE your myspace account. Call the police and do whatever you must as this has become deadly serious. Stay in touch because this is not good and we will all be worried for you!
whichwayisup Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 KEEP all the emails/calls and whatever else you have implicating them doing something wrong to you. I seriously would consider calling the police, get an officer to come by your house and so you can atleast talk and find out what can be done.
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Ok, this HAS escalated. And I agree with everyone. Its going to get worse. If I was in your shoes, I would print everything out, take it to the police, write out a report, and have them go over to the house, show both parents, and shut them down. The parents may not even know this is going on. Its time to protect yourself.
cbl Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 sorry for what happened. that was a very terrible thing for them to do... whoever did it. just a crazy thought.... is it possible to have a mutual friend of yours, or a respectful colleague/superior at work (you mentioned in another post that you two used to work in the same company, right?) to work as a mediator for your two, who's able to see things for the benefits of "both of you", and set aside your previous romantic involvement at the same time... before everything is put under the sun? at least just to understand what has been going on. some people are easily provoked... when they are "upset". my speculation is that "they are"/"he/she is" upset and maybe something bigger will come back if they feel more upset at this point of time. i am not against contact with law enforcement. it seems to be the only way to protect you through legal processes. for some people, it is just an easy way out to blame their problems/issues on others. i understand why they think it that way but i wonder how that action will help them improve their life. they need someone to shed them some light.
bonehead Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Do not delete ANY emails from them. Call the police. They will need the IP address
Author pureinheart Posted December 23, 2006 Author Posted December 23, 2006 I called the police and they are on their way and when they see all of this stuff....it is really grotesque....anyway they have me on myspace under that one they did in their dads name ....they are in some very big trouble.... thank you so much!!!!! I wouldn't have had the courage to do what I am doing without all of your help.....(((((((((hugggggs)))))))))))))
scaredinlove Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Well the "stalker family" did it again.....but thanks to all of the replies I was able to prepare myself..... Anyway the little stalkers threatened me....not with bodily harm, so I don't have a leg to stand on there....they did threaten my job though....they sent this disgusting email to my work email....the security message came on first...all email is monitered. So I went to the big manager and told him the whole sorted story....man am I lucky the management is so protective of me....he was more concerned about my well being and wanted to know if MM worked there. I have been so scared for a really long time that I could loose my job over this....I mean I would be finished....being 46 it is difficult to start over. But my manager assured me everything is ok. MM might not be ok though once security reads that email .... if any of you, in reading my posts find any similarities with MM/MW run now...here is a sample of what the "little darlings" had to say to me..... 1. Why did you delete your myspace account 3. What were you doing with our father all these years 4. Did you know my dad cant get it up? <~~Thats what mom says... I hear you waited 3 years to be with him and you still havent... its not you its his penis 6. Does your pastor know? Your therapist 7. Do you care that you are a homewrecker? 8. I thought I told you not to delete your myspace... I have your email what dont you understand about that? Do you not read well 9. What makes you think that this family is crazy? Is it cause we live in the devils territory? Anyway, that is a very small portion....and some of the "nicer" questions....these are some very sick people, so like I said....get out while you can.... The thing I don't get is if they have known for a year, why now? After it is apparent that there is NC w/MM? Did MM give them the green light in some way to mess with me.... He is in the same boat I am work wise and knows.... You should go to the police too and file a harrassment complain.
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 You should go to the police too and file a harrassment complain. she did go to the police! i'm really gonna want to know how this pans out. my situation was bad, but at least she has proof!
YoMomma Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Sounds like its HIS delayed male anger. He can't have you so he is causing any problems he can. quote] I had a similar sitution! Except he tried to say I was stalking him, duh what an idiot - trying to tell his wife that I was stalking him (after she found my private number on the cell phone bill). When I would need to talk to him I'd call and then hang up, then he would return my call. She'd ask him who was calling and he said wrong number - MORON! Had I known I would not have called him! What a dumb ass he is, she got the police involved because that was the only way she'd find out whose number it was. So I told them the truth that we were involved in an affair, etc. Then I spoke with her personally and told her everything, he actually thought I was going to lie for him?? He knew she went to the police and didn't tell me, I only found out when they called me and asked why my number was on his bill as hang ups, duh!!!! He was gaslighting her, but I wasn't having any part of it! I asked them if they wanted a copy of the past two years e-mails too? Although it would take a lot of ink and paper to print out, I'd be more than happy to do so! I would have never told her anything, except that he wasn't man enough to admit the truth and wanted to make me the scapegoat. I should have never gone back to him after the first break up, he was just a bad habit! Never again!!!! I am going to stay single and free in 2007 =)
whichwayisup Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I called the police and they are on their way and when they see all of this stuff....it is really grotesque....anyway they have me on myspace under that one they did in their dads name ....they are in some very big trouble.... thank you so much!!!!! I wouldn't have had the courage to do what I am doing without all of your help.....(((((((((hugggggs))))))))))))) Boy are they in for a huge surprise once the police show up at their door. I'd love to be a fly on the wall to see how they all react. Let us know how things go and I have to say, you've handled yourself really well during all this. Especially so close to the holidays and all.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I called the police and they are on their way and when they see all of this stuff....it is really grotesque....anyway they have me on myspace under that one they did in their dads name ....they are in some very big trouble.... thank you so much!!!!! I wouldn't have had the courage to do what I am doing without all of your help.....(((((((((hugggggs))))))))))))) I'm so glad that you are not sitting back and lettting this continue...GOOD FOR YOU!!!
Author pureinheart Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 Thank you sooooo much for all of the support!!!! Anyway I filed criminal action under the "annoying internet/phone calls" code...it is MM that it is being filed against... Do any of you know anything about this....it was the kids that did the major damage, but the Sheriff filed it on MM....I was so stressed and felt like I wasn't commicating well....but cops are used to this and have to size up things with less info...so a detective is going to contact me....will file restraining order, but want it on all of them.... I called MM last night (cops came this morning) to get more info...the info did help me to understand he is very much apart of this....(he is a liar so I take everything with a grain of salt) His attitude was either relaxed or emotionally burned out....he "said" he didn't know anything about email or myspace. (that myspace page is deleted now) He said that he left his email up and his wife saw my emails telling him to leave me alone...if this is the truth then W manipulated offspring (which isn't hard, it's what they've lived around) to carry out this sick shi*. He seamed to "not understand" the severity of this and how he is ultimately responsible....he said, oh well kids are of age and I am not responsible for what they do ....anyway on and on the manipulation went. I think he is involved directly or indirectly....this is how W and MM manipulate the people around them, and like one poster said....destroy the people around them.... What a bunch of losers!
movinon05 Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 What an A**HOLE!!!!!!!!!! Man, he is scum!!! I hope he/they are going to take this seriously. Did he tell all that to the cops? Did they talk to the W? The kids?
NoIDidn't Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 Count me in with the folks that said these folks destroy the people around them (maybe I was the one that said it, don't remember). I am SO glad you called law enforcement and DID something. Now its time to lay low but alert for anything else they might try to pull. These kind of people are the worst kind. They all sound like Narcisissts. He tried to act like he had no clue and was flat emotionally to the police, What a cad!! Do NOT talk to them since speaking with the police. Document everything from this point on out. Both of which I am sure you already plan to do as you seem to be such a strong and smart lady, but bear reiterating if you don't mind my redundancy. Be safe, lady. Have a safe and enjoyable holiday. You have earned it.
whichwayisup Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 ....he said, oh well kids are of age and I am not responsible for what they do That's crap and he knows it. Part of the responsibility of being a parent, and it doesn't matter HOW old the kids are, is showing them right from wrong. Guess the apples didn't fall far from the tree...Especially since he is showing like he couldn't care less about their behaviour and what they've been up to. Ah well, it's his mess now, cops involved and hey, I'm sure they're gonna have a happy Christmas!!
Author pureinheart Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 What an A**HOLE!!!!!!!!!! Man, he is scum!!! I hope he/they are going to take this seriously. Did he tell all that to the cops? Did they talk to the W? The kids? I don't know what happens now....not sure if the cops talked to him or not.....I just think it is so interesting that after being soooo firm about being left alone after the 3+ mo of NC, that he "accidently" left his email up. Did he want his W to see that? If so why? To let her know I was really out of the picture? Hoping she would finally leave...is that what serial cheater is all about? Was this the signal and the "go ahead" for them to mess with me? Was he holding them back all this time????? My God what goes through the minds of these people???? I wrote this email to him last night to let him know I didn't fall for the manipulations.... All I wanted was to be left alone, to try and reconstruct a not so good past and you and your sick "family" couldn't even give me that. You will never be able to understand the hurt I've been through and now this. For the record, this is the day, 1 year ago, my daughter went into the hospital and eventually lost two grandchildren. You have disrespected me and now you are letting your family do this, I have never seen such cruelty before ever. The only thing you care about is covering your own as* and you know what I am talking about. What your family has done to me is the most low life discusting act to date. You want me to email you if your family does further harm...why so that you can allow them to continue hurting others....by you allowing people to stay with you is condoning their actions, making you just like them....I wish I'd never met you
Author pureinheart Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 Count me in with the folks that said these folks destroy the people around them (maybe I was the one that said it, don't remember). I am SO glad you called law enforcement and DID something. Now its time to lay low but alert for anything else they might try to pull. These kind of people are the worst kind. They all sound like Narcisissts. He tried to act like he had no clue and was flat emotionally to the police, What a cad!! Do NOT talk to them since speaking with the police. Document everything from this point on out. Both of which I am sure you already plan to do as you seem to be such a strong and smart lady, but bear reiterating if you don't mind my redundancy. Be safe, lady. Have a safe and enjoyable holiday. You have earned it. Thanks NID....I think you did say that...it sure did stick in my head and answered soooo many questions. Remember the thread on Narcisissts...oh how right you are! I drew the strength and knowledge from all of you...if I hadn't come to this forum, the outcome would be much different. I really trust what you all say. You prepared me for what was to come, and there was no need to question the wrong or right thing to do. Having been away from reality for quite some time, had aquired a lot of MM's thinking....Happy Holidays to you also!
Author pureinheart Posted December 24, 2006 Author Posted December 24, 2006 That's crap and he knows it. Part of the responsibility of being a parent, and it doesn't matter HOW old the kids are, is showing them right from wrong. Guess the apples didn't fall far from the tree...Especially since he is showing like he couldn't care less about their behaviour and what they've been up to. Ah well, it's his mess now, cops involved and hey, I'm sure they're gonna have a happy Christmas!! For Gods sake, we are always supposed to be there to guide our kids....my parents still did with me! You know WWIU, I used to be so hurt and angry at the fact that his life was still in tact and I was suffering...it really didn't seem fair...I was alone, struggling financially....and he would say, "but you don't know what I go through" and then he would b*tch about money....his wife worked and he had plenty of stash....ooooow I would just want to spit nails. I had this very quick vision of him loosing EVERYTHING and being all alone....thinking that I am the most horrible person to have this thought and that it was just me "wanting" disaster to hit him. Also at that time I never thought that it was possible for anything like that to happen....he seemed untouchable. Maybe it was a real vision that I saw....now I have to not take pleasure in his destruction, and know that the evil destruction that was meant for me is now turned on him.
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