cowgirl6 Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Okay..I posted before on Holidays or bored. We broke up today. He says he is feeling guilty. Which btw is BS. He said he is confused because he loves me yet he feels guilty about what he is doing. (He came to me for the affair- we both went looking for one). Now he feels guilty? Everything was going fine...we were fufilled in what we were doing. Loved our spouses, yet found something else in each other. were not going to leave spouses because of children (Long Story). I really Love him alot. He wanted to take a break because things are going better with wife...but I told him that I don't do breaks so you can come running back to me when things go bad again. (Kuddos to me for saying that). Now I miss him terribly- damn right before Christmas too! What do I do besides the obvious...N/C? If I really want him back what do I do? Need support. Thanks
puddleofmud Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Are you sure you want him back? If so seems all you can do is wait...and hang in there and see what happens. You already said that he can't come back...so what is that you think would happen? I am very sorry this happened to you on the holidays and I hope you will be all right! Take care and best wishes to you!
GreenEyedLady Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 It doesn't sound like you can do much...things are going better with her and that is his choice...maybe focus on your own H and try to fill what the OM filled with your H instead...
whichwayisup Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Okay..I posted before on Holidays or bored. We broke up today. He says he is feeling guilty. Which btw is BS. He said he is confused because he loves me yet he feels guilty about what he is doing. (He came to me for the affair- we both went looking for one). Now he feels guilty? Everything was going fine...we were fufilled in what we were doing. Loved our spouses, yet found something else in each other. were not going to leave spouses because of children (Long Story). You may not like what I have to say, but good for him. He is realizing what he was doing was wrong, hurting his wife, betraying his whole family by sneaking around having an affair. He couldn't take it anymore and he's done the right thing for himself, as much as it may hurt you, it's for the best. Focus on your own husband, and family. I really Love him alot. He wanted to take a break because things are going better with wife...but I told him that I don't do breaks so you can come running back to me when things go bad again. (Kuddos to me for saying that). Now I miss him terribly- damn right before Christmas too! What do I do besides the obvious...N/C? If I really want him back what do I do? Need support. Thanks Respect his choice, do NC forever. It is over and keep telling yourself that. Focus all this energy into fixing your marriage and making life good again at home.
scaredinlove Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Okay..I posted before on Holidays or bored. We broke up today. He says he is feeling guilty. Which btw is BS. He said he is confused because he loves me yet he feels guilty about what he is doing. (He came to me for the affair- we both went looking for one). Now he feels guilty? Everything was going fine...we were fufilled in what we were doing. Loved our spouses, yet found something else in each other. were not going to leave spouses because of children (Long Story). I really Love him alot. He wanted to take a break because things are going better with wife...but I told him that I don't do breaks so you can come running back to me when things go bad again. (Kuddos to me for saying that). Now I miss him terribly- damn right before Christmas too! What do I do besides the obvious...N/C? If I really want him back what do I do? Need support. Thanks He will probably get bored or overcome his guilty and call you again, just decide if you want him back because this will be happening a lot. That is what my MM are going thru. She found out and he broke up with me but when she started getting nasty he runned to me again and this has being going on for couple of months. I decided I am moving on but I still talk to him, only I don't let my feelings overcome me anymore, I keep cool. We will probably bee totally over very soon, unless something drastic happens on his end , like she kicks him out or he leaves.
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