In Sync Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 This question has been on my mind as I have been having my own little relapses sporactically. Ok, I do think I was addicted to the idea or the ex at one point and therefore ignore how unheakthy and damaging the relationship was. And to this day I can't shake how I felt about it. and it's frustrating and agonizing to still feel vulnerable to the memories of how painful it was to recover from the breakup. SO if one can be addicted to a relationship like one can be addicted to a substance (alcohol or drugs) and experience the physical and painful effects of withdrawal and detoxing...Doesn't it stand to reason that one can be susceptible to becoming addicted to another person in another relationship, just as one is vulnerable to having arelapse and being susceptible to a drink or a hit of a drug... I haven't pursue another relationship because consciously or subconsciously I still on shakey grounds. I know the idea of jumping back on the bicycle is suppose to imply I try again, but I wonder can an alcoholic try drinking again. No. Uggghhhh...The approaching holidays are getting to me I suppose and now I'm taking a few steps back.
westernxer Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 There is no difference. Addiction is addiction.
Art_Critic Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 There is no difference. Addiction is addiction. I agree....... and NO.. an Alcoholic can not drink again - once an Alcoholic always an Alcoholic One drink is too many and 1000 are not enough
Guest Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 no no no...i am doing both right now and there is a huge addiction. i have an addiction to coke and i used to use it even though i didn't want to. so that robbed my of my self respect. as for this love i have i would never call it an addiction, i choose to do this freely without anyone or anything else influencing this. people can label it or call it whatever they desire, but, to me its a great thing and positive element in my life and have enable all my changes. this is mine - i own it and those that look down on it or just jealous and don't understand because it is something they have never experienced or lack the ability to do so or understanding. if that sounds ellitist - yes it is! wooo hooo yes!
blind_otter Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Well you can be addicted to a person. But not to people in general. I mean, being social creatures, humans are kind of hard wired to be around other people. That being said, I personally don't view the codependent behaviors of addiction to a person as the same thing as being addicted to a substance. The substance doesn't talk back to you or try to elicit anything from you, whereas another person will. IMO they are different. Addiction is addiction, but I can't wrap my mind around the fact that humans interact with you. Alcohol doesn't talk back or anything. Not when you're sober, anyways.
Author In Sync Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 Well you can be addicted to a person. But not to people in general. I mean, being social creatures, humans are kind of hard wired to be around other people. That being said, I personally don't view the codependent behaviors of addiction to a person as the same thing as being addicted to a substance. The substance doesn't talk back to you or try to elicit anything from you, whereas another person will. IMO they are different. Addiction is addiction, but I can't wrap my mind around the fact that humans interact with you. Alcohol doesn't talk back or anything. Not when you're sober, anyways. You see I suppose I have been calling it an addiction because well the symptoms of the relationship seemed (on hindsight the same as I have heard being addicted to a substance) Only to the person it was mentally, I needed that person and I let that desperate need cloud my rational thinking. My obsession (and grant you I am not speaking of a healthy relationship where one's sense of balance and reason and self respect is maintained) with staying in that relationship outweighed the fact that it was clearly unhealthy and the longer I stayed in it the more my self esteem diminished. Yet I clung to it. Fast forward to present day after over a year...I've no contact with the ex, And now it is like I detoxed or something, my judgement of what I was in is definitely different from how I saw myself then, nevertheless...If I was susceptible to being addicted or obsessed once. is it possible that it could happen again with another? I mean that is why I ask with the comparison to a substance. You get cleaned but you can't dabble in the substance again.
blind_otter Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Yeah but what I was saying was, when you're addicted to a single person, you aren't addicted to all people. But if you're addicted to alcohol, you are addicted to all alcohol. If you attend to your personal issues, you should be able to have a relationship in the future.
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