Guest Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I am now completely torn on whether or not my boyfriend cares for me. God, I feel sick. had a night, please read and answer, I am just completely torn. Last night me and my bf went to a party, started off fine. It was at his house and I planned on spending the night. Well, I was kinda in a bad mood and he was a sarcastic sense of humor that was kind of getting on my nerves all evening, but I did not say anything. (most days I'm okay with it) Anyway, after the party, we went to ihop in my bf's new car he just bought. Seeming he always jokes, I decide to make a joke randomly. My friend thought she broke something off his car...and I laughed, saying "take it home as a souvenir" my boyfriend than said it was a sick joke and I should find my own way home. (he was still a lil drunk by the way from the party) he did not mean that statement of course, but i got upset and cried..bc i was just still upset from the jokes. I asked him if he could talk, and he said what about, why should I talk to you right now, etc, etc. and was pissy. So i cried and cried in my friends' arms. (the party was still going on) and just left him alone for awhile. He finally went his room and i followed him, still upset, asking him to cuddle with me, he said no, hes tired and drunk, i begged for him to make me feel better, he said, no, he doesn't care, etc. so its 2 AM, i cant sleep, people are still at his house, and i start talking to people and they are all telling me i should end it bc if he cared he want to be there for while im upset. they really convinced me it was over and i had to dump him, etc. went back to his room three hrs later, hes all cuddly, caring, and asking what I need. (he had been sleeping) and asking why i did not come in his room, sooner. he actually talked about the incident then. and said it was bc he was tired drunk and all(which i believe)..but he it was 2-3 hrs after his last shot..was he really that drunk? i mean, I needed him then, he was not there for me..please, does he care about me? (some people we're telling me he certainly doesn't) or is him not wanting to cuddle and hold me at that time a sign that he does not? I am so confused!!!! ah.
everybody_chill Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Stop partying so much. Seriously. I can tell by the way you write that you are young, and you will go through so much more than this so be prepared.
Guest Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Stop partying so much. Seriously. I can tell by the way you write that you are young, and you will go through so much more than this so be prepared. Um, I'm 21. I can't drink because of medication. I am typing weird because I was up all night crying over my boyfriend. If you're going to be insensitive, do not reply to my post. Don't undermine a situation that is really hurting me.
rina_r Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Agree with the previous post. When you grow up and mature, many of your problems will resolve.
che_jesse Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Well lets see here... you flipped out on him for no reason, start sobbing like a crazy person, and then get mad at him for not "making you feel better". Just let it go... And drink less. Or atleat avoid having stupid arguments when your drunk.
pennyjosix Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I agree. I hate when people use the drunk card as an excuse. He still treated you like a jerk even though his sense were impaired by alcohol. Just from that story I cannot determine if he cares about you or not. Maybe it was just an off night for him.
Walk Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I know how hurtful those "sarcastic jokes" can be... and those little ones build up until you just can't take it anymore. And I can understand why you're so confused about this right now. His actions are confusing. I think the decision on whether to stay with him or not shouldn't be based on whether he loves you or not... but rather on what type of relationship you really want in your life. If his sarcastic comments and jokes are hurting you, even if it's not all the time, then you really need to find someone who has a better sense of humor. Or at least, isn't directing the sarcasm toward you. That to me is a big issue though.. the sarcasm. It's disrespectful (in my opinion) for a SO to make sarcastic comments and jokes about their partner. The only person laughing is the person who made it. The person who got zinged is not laughing. Do you want to continue dealing with that for years? Are you happy with this guy overall? Was his behavior that night pretty par for the course, or was this highly unusual never happened before type thing? If you had to describe your ideal relationship, how close would this one come to it?
IpAncA Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Well not sure what to think because drinking was involved. A lot of stuff can be said and not meant or vice versa. I would suggest that you talk to him about this when your both sober. Best way to do it.
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