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Damn, I am not cut out for this...

 

Just ran into BW and unavoidably had to talk with her for a bit. MM was not there - which is a good thing. I didn't know what to do or think or act.

 

He and I have been having some issues, and we're supposed to meet tomorrow to talk about them. I don't think we are coping well with the situation in general. Maybe time to bow out again...

 

Sorry...just had to tell 'someone'. Not really looking for any advice just felt the need to write it down...

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Yikes! What exactly happened? Did she know who you are? What did she say? Any hostility?

Details!

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Damn, I am not cut out for this...

 

Just ran into BW and unavoidably had to talk with her for a bit. MM was not there - which is a good thing. I didn't know what to do or think or act.

 

He and I have been having some issues, and we're supposed to meet tomorrow to talk about them. I don't think we are coping well with the situation in general. Maybe time to bow out again...

 

Sorry...just had to tell 'someone'. Not really looking for any advice just felt the need to write it down...

 

Good luck with your talk tomorrow...I know what you mean about not being cut out for this...I think I'm the worst OW in the world...

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I'm guessing the BW doesn't know about you. How can you do this?

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Yikes! What exactly happened? Did she know who you are? What did she say? Any hostility?

Details!

 

She doesn't know who I am other than a friend of a friend (I think!).

 

It was extremely uncomfortable for me as she was an arm's length away. I have met her a few times before but she has never made an impact on me before. I still don't know that I could pick her out in a crowd.

 

There was no hostility. (Though I had to bite my tongue to not say something stupid or revealing) She has accused him a few times in the past couple of months, but I don't think she would ever connect it. Though she did avoid any real eye contact so perhaps she has heard of our past.

 

Interesting to note that she wasn't wearing her wedding rings. He told me she only wears them for family or "couples friends" get togethers. Bit of a sore spot for him since they reconciled more than a year ago.

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Good luck with your talk tomorrow...I know what you mean about not being cut out for this...I think I'm the worst OW in the world...

 

I might have you beat on that! I'm not very good at this either. I am sure our talk will go the same route as our other ones have...this is wrong...we shouldn't do this...I can't give you up...I'm holding you back...and on it goes

 

I'm guessing the BW doesn't know about you. How can you do this?

 

With a great deal of difficulty. But it is more difficult and painful to walk away right now.

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Oh man CGU....that would be too weird (funny coming from me and my messed up situation....lol)....

 

My situation was soooo different, never being with a MM before....the BW's in this forum are the only BW's I've ever known besides myself, and they seem to operate in clear thinking.

 

If I ever met BW (who seems to like being BW) I think I would look at her and walk away shaking my head...I feel bad for the entire family, although I have no respect for any of them

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