IWalkAlone Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Here's a corrolary question to one in GoldPenny's thread... Let's say there was something about your appearance that drove away the sex you're into and you corrected it by losing a lot of weight/working out/surgury or by just learning how to dress and do your hair/makeup better. Next someone you've known for a while but had no romantic interest in you before suddenly wants to be your gf/bf. Would you take it against that person that they were not interested when you were not good looking is now interested?
brickaney Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 If I had persued them prior to my "ugly duckling" phase and they rejected me then I would be offended. If there was no persuing at all prior to the change then there's no problem. People change, life changes, how unnatural is that? I wouldn't be offended, I'd feel complimented that someone took notice of all my hard work. Of course this is all assuming neither party had persued and rejected the other prior to the change.
Walk Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 No. I wouldn't date the person. I'd feel like I was loved conditional on my outter apperance. If for some reason I were to become disfigured, I would be thrown to the wolves. Whatever though.. the person has expectations of apperance regarding their potential SO. Fine. I just don't want to be their SO. edit to add: I find it a character flaw to focus so strongly on the outter apperance of a person. p.s. I'm assuming you aren't talking about the clinically obese, or morbidly fat people of the world. But fairly normal folk who might have some extra poundage. And that you aren't talking about people who used to smell like week old rotting garbage. That you aren't talking about traits far outside the realm of "acceptable" in society.. but more like 20-40 lbs over weight, and used to buy off the rack but now buy tailor made... stuff like that?
GoldPenny Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 No, I wouldn't hold it against them. I would be far more disappointed in myself for not starting the makeover much earlier if I had known that I had the potential to be hot but didn't get around to it for some reason. Even in the scenerio in which I was attractive to them initally and we dated/had sex/whatnot but then turned ugly on them which caused them to repel me, I still wouldn't hold it against them when they're interested in my madeover looks later. I know it's perfectly natural and justified to not be attracted to someone because, well, they don't immediately strike you as hot. But, I think people generally should know that there are some unattractive people out there who genetically have the potential to be hot and not be shocked so much after a makeover of a beauty/health/fitness regimen that helped get them there. It's often not just inheritance but inheritance + nurture for the package.
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