BurntInNJ Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Our affair ended months ago, but I've tried to be civil. I called him today to tell him something, nothing of great importance but in any case he just hung up the phone. I am so pissed off right now, I know I've been thrown under the bus, and I understand why but he is a total ass! He is driving the bus, but I have a bigger rig than his!!!! A carton full of crap just waiting to be shipped to his house is so much more powerful than his hang up! I am so mad right now, I could spit nails. I am hoping to cool off tonight, he's just lucky the post office is shut because I'm ready to send his crap back to him first class!
Seen_It_All Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Address it to his wife. She should know what a parasite she's married to.
oyster Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Address it to his wife. She should know what a parasite she's married to. send it registered mail to his wife ONLY, so if she is not home, she has a delivery notice to pick it up:D
Author BurntInNJ Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 Address it to his wife. She should know what a parasite she's married to. She knows he cheated BUT I am sure he told her it was just a one night thing. I can guarantee she has no idea that is was a two year affair or his ass would have been out the door on D day! I had no intention of telling her anything, but tonight he just really pissed me off. A woman scorned isn't half of how I am feeling right now! One of her friends saw us together one night and told her. I don't blame him for our break up it was inevitable, every day since he has proved himself to be the ass he is! I have been going back and forth on how to deal with the things he gave me over the years. I go back and forth knowing I should just throw them out because its the only way for me to get him out of my 'memory box' so to speak. I should have done it months ago, now I need the strength not to 'send a train wreck' to his mailbox! Help! I want to be the better person but then again I am so hurt and pissed off and feel the wife should know what a low life disrepectful piece of **** she is married to.
noforgiveness Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Your affair ended MONTHS ago and you're upset because he's done MONTHS ago and doesn't want to talk to you NOW. Did you know you he was MARRIED when you started seeing him? if so then NO you are not burnt. You knew what you were getting into. You knew he had a wife at home. Oh but god forbid months later he doesn't want to speak to you so you're going to exact revenge. Go ahead, I agree ship it back addressed to his wife. It'll guarantee he will never speak to you again. It'll destroy his life too but who cares right? He won't speak to you so he deserves it because it's ALL ABOUT YOU. It couldn't possibly be because he's trying to rebuild his marriage now could it? IT'S ABOUT YOU.
noforgiveness Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 ok wait i'm really confused your first pos on here in oct was HOW crushed you were because your husband was having an affair now you're saying you ended one months ago? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=937746#post937746
Author BurntInNJ Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 Your affair ended MONTHS ago and you're upset because he's done MONTHS ago and doesn't want to talk to you NOW. Did you know you he was MARRIED when you started seeing him? if so then NO you are not burnt. You knew what you were getting into. You knew he had a wife at home. Oh but god forbid months later he doesn't want to speak to you so you're going to exact revenge. Go ahead, I agree ship it back addressed to his wife. It'll guarantee he will never speak to you again. It'll destroy his life too but who cares right? He won't speak to you so he deserves it because it's ALL ABOUT YOU. It couldn't possibly be because he's trying to rebuild his marriage now could it? IT'S ABOUT YOU. I don't care if he speaks to me again. As far as his life goes, what goes around comes around, no? I was not his only OW, and yes I believe that the W deserves to know that. He is not trying to rebuild his marriage, he is trying to save himself from a lifetime of alimony payments! I know this because he told me it's his worst fear! Money money money his name should be Trump! Its not all about me, but it is all about the women he destroys! I found out that he is on his second marriage, the first one dumped him for cheating in less than six months! No I did not know he was married when we met and started seeing each other. He is good at playing the game!
Author BurntInNJ Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 ok wait i'm really confused your first pos on here in oct was HOW crushed you were because your husband was having an affair now you're saying you ended one months ago? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=937746#post937746 One has nothing to do with the other! Yes I was crushed when I found out my soon to be EX was having an affair - because I tried for many years to make my marriage work YET my husband said he couldn't perform, but I stood by him! UNTIL I met MM - regretfully MM took advantage of my situation and loneliness. I did not want my marriage to break up, but in the end it is what is best for all of us. My soon to be EX (Jan) are now speaking and have agreed to an amicable divorce. And yes I was very hurt when I found out my H was having an affair - he couldn't have sex (with me) for many years. Now I know why, we grew apart and have accepted that we married too young. To be honest, I am very happy being alone right now, it's been a wake up call.
noforgiveness Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 funny how you go from the crushed barely functioning bw to the angry ow in 2 months time.
puddleofmud Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 So don't let HIS game control you! You are deservedly angry but you are letting your thoughts about him control you. Refuse to play the game--you can't loose a thing by doing that. This is YOUR ball and bat! This is YOUR GAME as of today, this moment. HAPPINESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!!! Re-focus your energy and conserve for your most deserved and happy future that is without any *******s that control your thoughts and your destiny! You didn't choose the wrong team, you just got stuck with the wrong player.
Author BurntInNJ Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 funny how you go from the crushed barely functioning bw to the angry ow in 2 months time. No actually its not funny at all!
Author BurntInNJ Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 So don't let HIS game control you! You are deservedly angry but you are letting your thoughts about him control you. Refuse to play the game--you can't loose a thing by doing that. This is YOUR ball and bat! This is YOUR GAME as of today, this moment. HAPPINESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!!! Re-focus your energy and conserve for your most deserved and happy future that is without any *******s that control your thoughts and your destiny! You didn't choose the wrong team, you just got stuck with the wrong player. Thanks Puddle! Your so right, I have to be the better person here.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Well been there as the BS. Plenty of men willing to take advantage of it, BS's coworkers, boss, friends, stangers BUT while my heart was crushed, self esteem destroyed, I STILL had use of my brain. NOONE else could fix it for me. NOONE was gonna take from me what I liked most about myself which was a sense of propriety, right and wrong, character, values, especially not HIM. These men were no better than him. I don't remember your story but can't imagine someone in that position could respect or trust a man who did to someone what her husband did to her. Mail her the things. She does deserve to know. THEN choose the right path for yourself in the future. What in the heck did you expect? The the OW position to be easier than the BS? Get a grip. The only difference is you signed up for it. I can't believe that anyone could read the posts of OW here and WANT that for themselves. You are mad because he chose the life he had built, ofcourse he did. HE worked for that money, status, perceived reputation. An easy peice of ass isn't gonna get in HIS way. Mail it.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 After a reread, didn't mean to sound cruel, BUT just can't imagine what you expected after it happened to YOU. I DO believe you chose the wrong team.
Tough Girl Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I think your MM deserves whatever he gets...but sending the package addressed to his W is going to hurt HER more than it hurts him. He sounds like an unfeeling snake - not sure anything you'd do would hurt him.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I agree that the package will hurt her but it's not the proof that is hurtful as much as what the package proves. It does sound like he's atleast trying to make ammends "at the moment". From what I've read here that is how it usually works. When things calm down on the home front then he'll be crawling back to OW (most likely). If she sends the package now, though, he'll probably just find a new one. If she sends the package now he'll say that he broke things off, and her anger and actions will only prove this. Heck, his W will probably feel sorry for him for being taken in by the CRAZY woman. IF she waits to send the package until he comes crawling back THEN he won't have that alibi. Ofcourse if he comes crawling back, I doubt she'll want to send the package at all.
Author BurntInNJ Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 Well been there as the BS. Plenty of men willing to take advantage of it, BS's coworkers, boss, friends, stangers BUT while my heart was crushed, self esteem destroyed, I STILL had use of my brain. NOONE else could fix it for me. NOONE was gonna take from me what I liked most about myself which was a sense of propriety, right and wrong, character, values, especially not HIM. These men were no better than him. I don't remember your story but can't imagine someone in that position could respect or trust a man who did to someone what her husband did to her. Mail her the things. She does deserve to know. THEN choose the right path for yourself in the future. What in the heck did you expect? The the OW position to be easier than the BS? Get a grip. The only difference is you signed up for it. I can't believe that anyone could read the posts of OW here and WANT that for themselves. You are mad because he chose the life he had built, ofcourse he did. HE worked for that money, status, perceived reputation. An easy peice of ass isn't gonna get in HIS way. Mail it. I have packed up the carton of crap, but decided to wait out the Holiday weekend before making a decision! Either way the stuff will be gone by New Years 2007 - either in the local dump or on his front stoop
YoMomma Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Send it back addressed to HIM not his wife!
kymberann Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I say send it to the wife, she deserves to know.
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I also had a bunch of stuff saved through the years. It sat around until one night I sat outside on my patio with the firepit and burned every scrap of it, piece by piece. I thought at first, I would read each letter before I burned it, but quickly stopped that because it wasn't worth drudging up the pain, reading the lies and going through the memories. The last thing I burned was his picture. I stared at it long and hard and came to realize that the person in that picture was never who I thought he was. So I burned it all and haven't missed a thing. For me, that was my shining moment. I had truly moved on.
scaredinlove Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Don't do it you will regret, it will only show the wife the affair is really over. Just forget the jerk and move on. I did something similar out of range and than I regreted so much...If you are feeling angry is because you still misses him and wanted him to treat you like a friend because you had a affair for two years. Don't send anything, burn it and move on.
YoMomma Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I also had a bunch of stuff saved through the years. It sat around until one night I sat outside on my patio with the firepit and burned every scrap of it, piece by piece. I thought at first, I would read each letter before I burned it, but quickly stopped that because it wasn't worth drudging up the pain, reading the lies and going through the memories. The last thing I burned was his picture. I stared at it long and hard and came to realize that the person in that picture was never who I thought he was. So I burned it all and haven't missed a thing. For me, that was my shining moment. I had truly moved on. Wow! I would have loved to burn the **** I had saved over two years =) I double bagged the stuff and put it out on the curb, it felt good to know I had nothing tangible left from him. Most of it was just cheap trinkets, he was a stingy bastard =) Funny how sex can fog up your brain!
whichwayisup Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 You want to feel better and stay happy? Move on. Forget all about him, get him out of your life in every way. And that includes giving his wife that package. It isn't your marriage, not your place to tell her anyway. Plus, you'd be doing it out of PURE revenge. Its' not up to you to decide if she should know or not seeing as you were the OW in his life.
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