GoldPenny Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Assuming that looks do matter in your dating/love/sex scene (please no more "you're shallow" type of comments), what is your opinion of a person who did not appear physically attractive in the past but then became enhanced (by means of diet, exercise, make-up, careful grooming, etc.) and really now are attractive? Now this person had the natural potential all along that may or may not have gone unnoticed but did not work on their physical appearance well at all, so you weren't attracted to them. Would/does such a past interfere with your romantic/sexual action towards them?
IWalkAlone Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 I would admire a person who proactively improved their appearance. But part of me would be concerned that they might let themselves go after getting married, because that potential is still there too.
Guest Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I think most people go on a What You See Is What You Get assumption. Like someone with severe acne gets on meds and their acne clears up and no one thinks -but he USED to have acne. No, people just look at you and see what's in front of them and think its a good change. Same thing for losing weight, new appearance etc.
Walk Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Well.. I guess just let the person know that if they ever become ugly/fat/unattractive again then you'll ditch him or her. That way everyone's clear on the terms, and later no one can cry foul if they break the agreement.
JamesM Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I would have no problem because I would become attracted to the person as she is. The bigger question is...Can the person with the makeover become the physically attractive on the outside? Too often, we become "better looking" physically, but inside we still think as if we are the "ugly" person or the fat person. This is what usually keeps a person from being attractive. Looks attract, but personality keeps.
Author GoldPenny Posted December 27, 2006 Author Posted December 27, 2006 I agree that it wouldn't bother me either. I think a great point made by a lot of you was the maintenance phase. It does largely depend on their character towards their new look- they have to be persistent, consistent, and flexible around factors that could deter them or discourage them from keeping it up. I know some potentially good-looking people who rivert to their old ways after laziness or too much comfort settles in, do not put themselves first or do not learn to work around their schedule and become unattractive.
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