pureinheart Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 There was total peace for one day as MM did not call or email. Have been in NC for over three months, MM had been calling 30+ times per day. I broke NC to tell him in no uncertain terms to leave me alone. In checking the email find a message that I thought was a person that I talk to on myspace every now and then...in opening the message find that it is from MM (MM hated myspace)....then I get a message from his daughter titled "hows my dad". Now granted, I didn't sleep good, haven't for awhile, and came down with the most horrible cold, so my head is real fuzzy....I couldn't believe this. I think MM kids made that myspace thing for their dad to mess with whoever....the dad, me.....they also hacked into his email account. After seeing this I went to my profile on myspace and saw all of the info I had given....I was just asking for a stalker! So deleted all info, will delete the account when I get time. Last night I get this message from his daughter: [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman]Why do you delete your pictures and stuff. Its not like we havent seen them already today. Why wont my dad leave you alone? You know we read some of your letters by the way. I know that you sent him a letter just reacently asking him to leave you alone. I am not mad at you, I respect the fact that you are telling him to leave you alone... I just dont understand why he didnt. I wouldnt bother closing this if you dont want to talk I wont message you anymore... But I do have your email address also, unless that was only used to talk to my dad... I just want to know why he likes you so much that he is willing to loose his whole family. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman]MM kids are all grown, I never got into my parents business like this, my kids don't get into mine....[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman]I wanted to write back saying that they all need help....this is too much.....[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman]All imput is appreciated....[/FONT][/COLOR]
whichwayisup Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Why wont my dad leave you alone? You know we read some of your letters by the way. I know that you sent him a letter just reacently asking him to leave you alone. I am not mad at you, I respect the fact that you are telling him to leave you alone... I just dont understand why he didnt. I wouldnt bother closing this if you dont want to talk I wont message you anymore... But I do have your email address also, unless that was only used to talk to my dad... I just want to know why he likes you so much that he is willing to loose his whole family. They should be directing these questions towards their father, not you.
yousaveme Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Wow...are you sure this is the kids. and not him
whichwayisup Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 I would definately ignore it, just incase it is him, hoping that you'll react and write.
Author pureinheart Posted December 21, 2006 Author Posted December 21, 2006 Wow...are you sure this is the kids. and not him I'm priddy sure....this is their MO
yousaveme Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Ignore it for now...If it gets worse then cross that bridge when you get there. But just see if it stops if you dont react...
Author pureinheart Posted December 21, 2006 Author Posted December 21, 2006 They should be directing these questions towards their father, not you. That was my first thought and my daughters also....he's such a liar though....I feel so bad for the kids even though their actions are not appropriate....I know where they learned this behavior from. I think the kids are looking for some truth in their lives, they've lived with lies for so long.....and possibly with me being so direct in the "most recent" email, thought that I would give them answers. MM walks in confusion....I don't know how they stand it....
Author pureinheart Posted December 21, 2006 Author Posted December 21, 2006 Ignore it for now...If it gets worse then cross that bridge when you get there. But just see if it stops if you dont react... Good advice....a part of me wanted to try to speak some clear thinking into them, and here was the perfect opportinity....but, not my place...it's up to MM and W to work out their differences and do what is right by the kids, grown or not..... Yep, you and WWIU said the same thing....good advice
Author pureinheart Posted December 21, 2006 Author Posted December 21, 2006 Wow....wouldn't that be cool if SOMETHING out of this horrible situation turned out good! I really do hope and pray their family can be functional and that they will be happy together....
kymberann Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Boy I really doubt you could do or say anything to encourage clear thinking. I question lke a few here if this is coming from the kids. If it is I am sure they have questions, but MM should be responsible with providing answers. Are the kids older? I would ignore it, to address it would give them more fuel for the fire. Keep a record of it though...just in case! Keeping my fingers crossed. Best
Author pureinheart Posted December 21, 2006 Author Posted December 21, 2006 Boy I really doubt you could do or say anything to encourage clear thinking. I question lke a few here if this is coming from the kids. If it is I am sure they have questions, but MM should be responsible with providing answers. Are the kids older? I would ignore it, to address it would give them more fuel for the fire. Keep a record of it though...just in case! Keeping my fingers crossed. Best Thanks Kymberann, there's 4 kids, between the ages 29 thru 21....it's a really strange situation....MM bought the two houses on either side of him for the purpose of having his kids close by....now I don't have a problem with families being close/living in the same house, whatever. It was like he wanted to control them....he charges them a minimal amount of rent and he said they rarely pay that, they tare up the houses and don't take care of much and don't help him. I don't think any of the kids work....it's just too weird. Oh I am keeping record of everything now!
NoIDidn't Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 PIH, I am not at all calling you out or making fun of your sitch, but its things like these that remind me to stay out of other people's affairs (no pun intended). Wow! JUst.....wow! Its like the whole family is stalking you. This sucks. I would probably write them back, against the advice of the posters here. Mainly to tell them the same things that are already stated in this thread: that they need to pose the questions to their father and that they too need to stop contacting me. This is going overboard. I hope you have contacted local law enforcement by now. I don't think this rollercoaster ride is over yet. We are just in Act II and the W hasn't played her part yet. I am so sorry for you and what you are going through.
puddleofmud Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 How crazy! I am w/ everyone else--IGNORE this and keep records. This has crossed a line that is just too bizarre. It is as if you have no privacy according to this situation which is really sick and strange. Should you become involved in any shape or form would be encouragement. Plus, it is so freakin' unfair that you are just trying your best to go forward and this is what is being thrown at you? So sorry, sweetie! Stand strong!
Author pureinheart Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 Family of stalkers? ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yep
bonehead Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Stalk um back, works for me!!!!!!!!! just kidding. Ignore them. They thrive off the turmoil
Author pureinheart Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 PIH, I am not at all calling you out or making fun of your sitch, but its things like these that remind me to stay out of other people's affairs (no pun intended). Wow! JUst.....wow! Its like the whole family is stalking you. This sucks. I would probably write them back, against the advice of the posters here. Mainly to tell them the same things that are already stated in this thread: that they need to pose the questions to their father and that they too need to stop contacting me. This is going overboard. I hope you have contacted local law enforcement by now. I don't think this rollercoaster ride is over yet. We are just in Act II and the W hasn't played her part yet. I am so sorry for you and what you are going through. Thanks NID....you know, thinking about it....all of this time has gone by and they've kind of known about me, but why would they contact me now? Something tells me he baited them, knowing nosey they are it would have been very easy....I mean come on if your secret is in EMAILS wouldn't one delete them!!!!!
Author pureinheart Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 How crazy! I am w/ everyone else--IGNORE this and keep records. This has crossed a line that is just too bizarre. It is as if you have no privacy according to this situation which is really sick and strange. Should you become involved in any shape or form would be encouragement. Plus, it is so freakin' unfair that you are just trying your best to go forward and this is what is being thrown at you? So sorry, sweetie! Stand strong! Well, guess what I will never get into again.....yep I bet MM baited them....he gets them to say "oh no dad please don't leave"....and he gets me to contact him telling him what's going on.... Thanks puddle....well hopefully this will be it, if not I will just have to deal with it...
cbl Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Stay out of it, I'd say. I agree with the rest of the posters. Whatever you try to say to them, they will interpret your words "the way they want to believe". It will NEVER be what you meant to say. Make sure you are safe and well protected.... in case the verbal attacks become physical stalking. I was in a similar situation before. His wife came to know my name, cell number and email when she read my emails to him and she deleted them. A couple of weeks later when she saw my sms to him, she called me back only I pretended that I was loing the signal and couldn't talk. Then troubles came one after another. She started telling his husband that I called her, took her things from their house, and slept on their bed. Then the most tricky part came. A girl who claimed to be his exOW 2.5 years ago wrote me an email and thank me for destroying his family and said that i should have already received the money that they wired me. Same day this girl sent him (MM) emails telling him that it's easy for me to get her (BW) phone number and called her (because he did not believe her story of me calling her in the first place). then I checked her IP and found out it was the W who sent the email (me, his W and his kids are living in three different countries and he travels around). I responded and I regretted for doing that. What happened was that she continued sending emails. Not only to me, MM, and his W, but their kids, calling me names (f***ing wh*re sleeping with married man, and that i should stand on the street having my l*gs open...etc) i was very annoyed and irritated. Whatever nice person an OW is, people tend to see her as a home-wrecker. Potential or not. Kids may never like OW but I doubt if they would really stand up and say something. In my case the kids do not respond (they are all grown-ups busy with their life) all i know is that their family get together and stick together tighter than before.... and i am the only person who was there alone having to heal the wound by myself. anyway don't let them have any chance to mess with your mind. especially when you are in NC with your MM. you have gone so far and have done so well. by not telling them anything, you give yourself power over them - but if you write them back, they gain the information about you, which will turn to be their weapon to be used against you. i deleted my email account which was known to his W. and i never heard from "that strange girl" again.
Author pureinheart Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 Stay out of it, I'd say. I agree with the rest of the posters. Whatever you try to say to them, they will interpret your words "the way they want to believe". It will NEVER be what you meant to say. Make sure you are safe and well protected.... in case the verbal attacks become physical stalking. anyway don't let them have any chance to mess with your mind. especially when you are in NC with your MM. you have gone so far and have done so well. by not telling them anything, you give yourself power over them - but if you write them back, they gain the information about you, which will turn to be their weapon to be used against you. i deleted my email account which was known to his W. and i never heard from "that strange girl" again.[/quot WOW cbl....you had a bunch of psychos too....I knew they wanted info, they have from day one, they are for the mostpart afraid of me because they know I'm different from the A's they have found out about. These are a group of people that act simply on impulse....they try to control everything around them....it has been backfiring now since I've talked to MM.....they have several people on the verge of sueing them, MM is trying to sue the company we last worked for, and that company is bringing in another major company, saying they are at fault too....so in essence he's screwed himself with 2 major employers whether he wins or not... Oh and I know everything said would be twisted....the apples didn't fall very far from the tree...lol...MM in a recent email stated that "you are messing with my head"....excuse me...go figure...
movinon05 Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Yes, do ignore them for now. I had a similar problem like some of the posters here. My exMM's daughter took every opportunity she could to confront me. Then she would go home and lie to her parents that I did this or that, when it was far from the truth. Sometimes she even threw a crying jag with her twisted story. His W used to lie as well and then he'd come after me accusing me of whatever she was lying about at the time! Thing is, he knew better. He knew I was not confrontational and both his W and daughter were. But it caused no end of problems. His daughter also played on the fence. She taunted me, as in "my dad is home and he's with my mom - not you", but told my son she wished her parents would just get a D because things were so bad at home. My thought about your situation is that teenagers tend to act like they're adults and get involved, especially when things are bad at home. They might not tell you that, but if anything is bad at home, they are going to blame it all on you. Yes, your words will get twisted no matter what you do.
Ladyjane14 Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I kind of disagree about ignoring it. I think if it were me, I'd forward the daughter's email to MM and tell him he needs to address his daughter's questions himself, because as he already knows.... contact with him and with his family members is most definitely unwanted. Then, I'd tell him if I had even one more attempt from him, I would file a restraining order so fast his head would spin. At this point, you've already been crystal clear that the contact is undesired. Now it's time to let him know that you're ready to take action if he doesn't stop. It's a matter of stalking and harrassment once your point has been made, so make sure you keep a written record (or journal) of these attempts to contact and monitor you.
Meaplus3 Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Wow...are you sure this is the kids. and not him I would wonder the same thing as yousaveme. Could be him, not the kid's. What children would do something like that? AP
Author pureinheart Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 Yes, do ignore them for now. I had a similar problem like some of the posters here. My thought about your situation is that teenagers tend to act like they're adults and get involved, especially when things are bad at home. They might not tell you that, but if anything is bad at home, they are going to blame it all on you. Yes, your words will get twisted no matter what you do. Very true movinon....kids that grow up around kaos tend to take it a step further...I know I did. ExMM knows me and I think he will back off, I think he knows the game is over...also he knows that I am a nice person, and it takes a lot to back me in a corner, but when in that corner I don't act on impulse, but watch and wait, doing what is needed for the situation. Movinon, exMM's family doesn't know what to think about me, they know I've been a great influence. They see that their father/H carries himself much different now....he was very awkward and immature. A few months ago he went on an interveiw and I saw the change that had taken place....definitely management material now. This is why it has been so hard for him to let go....he saw a different way to do things. Wow, I feel soooo free....no more OW, no more "Cinderella" (I was the real life Cinderella....lol)....the worst is over and the best is yet to come!!!!!!!!
Author pureinheart Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 I kind of disagree about ignoring it. I think if it were me, I'd forward the daughter's email to MM and tell him he needs to address his daughter's questions himself, because as he already knows.... contact with him and with his family members is most definitely unwanted. Then, I'd tell him if I had even one more attempt from him, I would file a restraining order so fast his head would spin. At this point, you've already been crystal clear that the contact is undesired. Now it's time to let him know that you're ready to take action if he doesn't stop. It's a matter of stalking and harrassment once your point has been made, so make sure you keep a written record (or journal) of these attempts to contact and monitor you. Hey Ladyjane....definitely good advice! Well, I'm really hoping they don't give me cause to go to restraining order point because his livelihood would definitely be in jeapordy....for 2 days there has been NC from them.....but I am ready and have all of the phone #'s (to cover my own a**) and paperwork, so all is ready to roll....I hope he doesn't push me. That is all I am asking....to be left alone....
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