Guest Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 I'm not sure how I feel. We are happy, but I sometimes wonder if he wanted me because I'm younger and he feels like I'm easier to mold than his wife was. She calls a lot. I'm not really sure how I should feel or react. He always takes the call, then gets off and screams to me for a bit about how awful she is. I worry that he may still love her and that he left her because he felt like she didn't love him anymore and not because HE didn't want to be with her. Am I paranoid? Has anyone else been in this situation?
BUTAFLY Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Interesting. I know a man who had an A on is wife. She wanted a divorce, he begged to stay and claims he will always love her and always regret losing her. He is now married to the mistress, but still says he would have never divorced, however he made is bed now he has to lie in it (his words). What does that say about his current marriage? I don't know, but she(OW) got her man in the end soooo.... Are you paranoid? NO, its an honest question. What you should ask yourself is, 'does it matter the reason he is with you OR is the fact he is with you enough?' ps. Come this Febuary will be their 2nd year of marriage. So its still going strong.
norajane Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Is he trying to mold you into something you aren't?
RecordProducer Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Am I paranoid? You didn't give much information (not saying you have to) so you are not very likely to get any constructive answers.
BUTAFLY Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 why is she calling him alot? Do they have children together? If so then the calls are understandable. If not then he needs to let go and end that part of his life if he wants to be with you.
oyster Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 I say, you have to push him back. Talk to my hand attitude when he complains about his ex-wife. Tell him to build a wall with his past. This is out of your control but should be a requirement to be with you.
puddleofmud Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Sorry you are going through this but all you can do is reasonably express your feelings about this with your partner and talk it out. Perhaps you may try requesting a future planned conversation about this when you are both calm and prepared as opposed to the reaction from her calls. In other words make an "appointment" to talk about it tomorrow eve after dinner or something like that (when both of you are cooled off and can be more objective). Perhaps you may try one issue at a time. One being her calls and his reaction and how you feel and second; your insecurities about your relationship w/ him instead of jumbling both. Best wishes for a happy and wonderful relationship! I'm not sure how I feel. We are happy, but I sometimes wonder if he wanted me because I'm younger and he feels like I'm easier to mold than his wife was. She calls a lot. I'm not really sure how I should feel or react. He always takes the call, then gets off and screams to me for a bit about how awful she is. I worry that he may still love her and that he left her because he felt like she didn't love him anymore and not because HE didn't want to be with her. Am I paranoid? Has anyone else been in this situation?
bonehead Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I'm not sure how I feel. We are happy, but I sometimes wonder if he wanted me because I'm younger and he feels like I'm easier to mold than his wife was. She calls a lot. I'm not really sure how I should feel or react. He always takes the call, then gets off and screams to me for a bit about how awful she is. I worry that he may still love her and that he left her because he felt like she didn't love him anymore and not because HE didn't want to be with her. Am I paranoid? Has anyone else been in this situation? First question is are there children involved? Second question. you said wife, are they divorced yet?
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