Guest Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 He wanted me to move in with him to his moms house, a hour and a half away. We have been together a year, and I have told him I loved him once about 5 months back, and still waiting for him to say it back. I have a son to whom i moved in with an ex boyfriend about 3 years back, and when it didn't work out my son was devistated. I told my man, My son doesn't have a choice in the matter and so I had to make the right decision for him, I told him that I couldn't move in with him because there is no real commitment between the two of us, and if it didn't work out, my son would be devistated again, and I can not let that happen. I told him I need more of a commitment from him... He said he understands, and that his mother would also understand. lol like i cared what she thought anyway! haha He wants to move there so that he can save up enough money for a nice house for "us". He is living in a apt. with a freind to which he is never there. He would be saving about 900.00 by moving back with his mom. I understand but still am hurt. I didint' want a long distance relationship. His mom wanted him to come back partly so he could save money. but also so she wasn't so damn lonely! WELL, I AM SORRY! I am so resentful of her right now. She manipulates this man. i know he lets her, but with out her this wouldn't be happening. I am the one going to be lonely now. and there is nothing I can say or do, we aren't committed, obviously, in that way. I had to right by my son, period. I would have moved in in a heart beat if i didn't have a son, but, i am living for him right now, so I had to do the right thing. I don't even know why i am posting this, I guess I would like some opinions and may be some reasurance that I did the right thing,. Its hard when you can't live for yourself anymore, and you would like to do something but you know you can't. I am going to miss him! Thanks for any thoughts!
lasan Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 I think so. I am a single parent as well and I won't move in with anyone that I didn't marry the day before. I can't do that to my son. I have to make the right choice for him even though it may infringe on what I might want to do.
norajane Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 An hour and a half isn't that far! I live in a big city and sometimes it takes me almost that long to drive the 20 miles to my BF's house, what with all the traffic and construction. You're not breaking up; you'll still see each other. You'll just need to plan ahead so you make sure you get your time together. He can stay with you on weekends, you can meet halfway sometimes, he can alternate staying with you for a week or whatever.
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