Annova Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Do any of you on here just feel like giving up sometimes? Giving up on the whole dating thing sounds so good right now. I could just forget about it and not have to worry about well...alot of things that involve a relationship. I feel like I'm going to be single forever and that there is no point in fighting it so maybe accepting it would be better. Sorry this sounds so depressing but I just feel like crap about this whole dating thing. Maybe some of us are ment to be alone. I don't know but I'm so sick of this whole dating and finding someone. It seems like there is no one out there for me and I was left out. Seems like I would have found someone by now. Even my family mentioned something to me about it and said that I was never going to find anyone. Maybe there right who knows but ugh...I'm so depressed about this whole thing that it just makes me feel sick.
DanielMadr Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Do any of you on here just feel like giving up sometimes? Giving up on the whole dating thing sounds so good right now. I could just forget about it and not have to worry about well...alot of things that involve a relationship. I feel like I'm going to be single forever and that there is no point in fighting it so maybe accepting it would be better. Sorry this sounds so depressing but I just feel like crap about this whole dating thing. Maybe some of us are ment to be alone. I don't know but I'm so sick of this whole dating and finding someone. It seems like there is no one out there for me and I was left out. Seems like I would have found someone by now. Even my family mentioned something to me about it and said that I was never going to find anyone. Maybe there right who knows but ugh...I'm so depressed about this whole thing that it just makes me feel sick. It is Christmass time init? Cheer up. You are healthy, free and young....dont spoil your life by being sad. Death is smiling on us....smile back....laugh at your own bad luck. Spend the time without partner working on yourself.....meditate but dont pity youself, do some walking in park, enjoy life, learn new things, work on yourself and your self-esteem. Switch off computer. Work on your sex-appeal. Marry Christmass
Love Hurts Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Excellent advice..DanielMadr Annova....For many of us it’s natural to wake up one day and say to yourself. I don’t want to go it alone anymore. I want that special someone to share life with. You never know when you will meet that right person you just click with. Stay calm and reserved just keep on keeping on. The eyes are the window to the soul. If you begin to take on the look of desperado.. it’s alarming to the opposite sex. A confidence in whom and where you are is attractive. Anxiousness doesn’t alter time. Acceptance with what is; offers inner peace. When you are happy with where you are in this place in time….Your a joy to be around. There are many today in wrong relationships that would trade places with your web free stance in the world. Read of some of the problems relationships present posted in L.S., look at the heartaches your not trying to get over. These are the good days…. enjoy. Peace be with you
Daeron Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Seems like I would have found someone by now. Even my family mentioned something to me about it and said that I was never going to find anyone. Maybe there right who knows but ugh...I'm so depressed about this whole thing that it just makes me feel sick. I'm a guy and I feel the same way sometimes. Now after two failed long term relationships. Members of my family have said the same things. My aunt thinks I'm going to end up living alone with my two cats. I'm doomed. But I haven't given up quite yet.
barfool Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Do any of you on here just feel like giving up sometimes? Every day. It's tough being single sometimes. What's worse is that people can sense that you're lonely and depressed and will be less likely to date you. People want to date confident, happy people. Being single can become a vicious cycle.
IWalkAlone Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 How old are you? I'm in my early 30s and I know what you mean. While I have a good idea what sort of woman I'd like to spend the rest of my life with, the odds of meeting such a person seem to be about the same as winning the lottery. Sometimes I'd like to give up and resign my self to porn and not waste emotional energy persuing women, but porn just isn't fullfilling in all the ways real women are.
everybody_chill Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I feel the same way as you. I am also seriously considering writing off the opposite sex as well. I know people have said it before but I am dead serious. People are so rude anymore.
pennyjosix Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Just take a deep breath. Maybe take a break from trying to date for a bit so you can refresh yourself. Theres so many people in this world that I am sure you can find one person compatible for you. Keep your head up.
everybody_chill Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Just take a deep breath. Maybe take a break from trying to date for a bit so you can refresh yourself. Theres so many people in this world that I am sure you can find one person compatible for you. Keep your head up. People get tired of hearing cliches. I have heard so many I can't stand it anymore. The realit yof it is that we live in a society that is degrading fast. I adon't even want to bring children into this world anymore. Being alone sucks, but I am embracing it - not by choice, I have been forced to.
luvtoto Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Just take a deep breath. Maybe take a break from trying to date for a bit so you can refresh yourself. Theres so many people in this world that I am sure you can find one person compatible for you. Keep your head up. That's what I'm doing. I've tried dating again but all that did was make me miss my freedom.
Author Annova Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 I feel the same way as you. I am also seriously considering writing off the opposite sex as well. I know people have said it before but I am dead serious. People are so rude anymore. I've considered writing them off myself. I don't know how old you are but I'm only 23 and it has crossed my mind more then I can say. I hardly ever see anyone in a relationship that works. You go through all the trouble of finding someone and then to have it not work out one after another. It's soooooo tiring and I'm just sick of it. Sure it's lonely and I would like nothing more then to be with someone BUT there seems to be a price to pay for it. At least that's what I'm seeing. So many people say that men are not like this or that and you'll find one. WHEN? When will I find one. I feel like I'm the only one in a crowd that could scream and no one would bother to hear me. I fear that I will be one of those old ladies who has no one and has like 5 cats and no life. :(
Author Annova Posted December 22, 2006 Author Posted December 22, 2006 How old are you? I'm in my early 30s and I know what you mean. While I have a good idea what sort of woman I'd like to spend the rest of my life with, the odds of meeting such a person seem to be about the same as winning the lottery. Sometimes I'd like to give up and resign my self to porn and not waste emotional energy persuing women, but porn just isn't fullfilling in all the ways real women are. Yeah no kidding. I feel like that sometimes myself. I just hate that people can that I will always be alone and then to have that come true. I don't want it to end like that. Its just so sad, especially around the holiday's.
everybody_chill Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 That's what I'm doing. I've tried dating again but all that did was make me miss my freedom. Ahh yes, but freedom is a double edged sword, my friend. Some same freedom is another word for lonlines sin this respect. I can relate to what you say though.
everybody_chill Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I hardly ever see anyone in a relationship that works. You go through all the trouble of finding someone and then to have it not work out one after another. It's soooooo tiring and I'm just sick of it. :( I agree with you. Look at your environment, even the relationships that appear happy - usually one party is secretly cheating on the other. It's a big game: what can I get away with... what needs can I fulfill of my own without any consideration for another.... how can I easily escape because a relationship is too much work.... I really feel this is a direct result of a degrading society. Californication is alive and well in this country. Why do you think other societies think we are evil? And what saddens me most is that these things are not found in the minority. It's not about the bad date i had last night or the 4 year relationship I had with a gold digger. It's the fact that the sheer number of women I have encountered in my lifetime are of this behavior. That to me is the most sad part of it all.
pennyjosix Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I wasn't being cliche. I didn't say they are plenty of fish in the sea. I was stating a fact that there are a bunch of people, including females, in this world. Period.
distant_nebulae Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I was stating a fact that there are a bunch of people, including females, in this world. Period. Yes, most of which have less than pure intentions.
Author Annova Posted December 23, 2006 Author Posted December 23, 2006 I agree with you. Look at your environment, even the relationships that appear happy - usually one party is secretly cheating on the other. It's a big game: what can I get away with... what needs can I fulfill of my own without any consideration for another.... how can I easily escape because a relationship is too much work.... I really feel this is a direct result of a degrading society. Californication is alive and well in this country. Why do you think other societies think we are evil? And what saddens me most is that these things are not found in the minority. It's not about the bad date i had last night or the 4 year relationship I had with a gold digger. It's the fact that the sheer number of women I have encountered in my lifetime are of this behavior. That to me is the most sad part of it all. O yes relationship are not what they used to be back in the day thats for sure. I think that there are far and few between of good decent people, in my case men that are willing to have a relationship. IMO there are so many people that are my age that just go from girl to girl and by the time that they are in their 30s their ready to settle down. It's just so frustrating because I don't want to wait until I'm like 34 or 35 to find someone worth dating. I want to spend time with someone. Not 20 years and then have them die on me. I want to have someone throughtout my life, not at the end. Sorry if this sounds bad but its how I feel.
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