clarityisparamount Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Can anyone help me please? I have been with my current girlfriend for 6 months (we are very much in love but now Im unsure what it all means) I was aware that she sent texts to her ex, just as friends but was told that she didnt so much any more & that it would fizzle out, I could live with this. Anyhow, when drunk last weekend I had the opportunity to check into her phone - just wanted to put my mind at rest that it was all above board, I know I shouldnt have & felt bad afterwards - I told her what Id done & broke down, apologising but asking what it meant (bad idea I know but I had to bring it out in the open), she kicked up a massive storm about trust & how it would never be the same again now because of this, she thought I was different etc.. However, I looked into the whole fone & found that they were calling each other 'princess' & 'night night my prince' 'miss you' 'love you' amongst other things, also quite a few calls in the call list. I accept I shouldnt have done this as it was all fine before & Ive now opened pandoras box, will I ever be ok again? she assures me its just friends & it will fizzle out & that Im the one for her, she spends almost all her time with me so I know where she is so I could be just being silly. Im not sure what to make of it, she wont talk about it - she says we need to move on & not talk about it again or we will ruin the relationship. In my mind I feel really confused & I love her dearly, but I really dont know what to do - can anyone help me please? Many thanks in advance, Yours, Upset & flustered.
moman Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Obviously she has something to hide. You should tell her it won't be the same because she is a lying sleezebag.....
Guest Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 in most cases u will find that the person that easily snoops on anothers privacy is the first one to freak if u go near their computer or things of that nature. i find that when people 'fear' or 'think' the worst - it is a delayed reaction to something they have done and they are trying to throw off the blame. now, for me, i never have been with a woman i felt cheated on me - i could read blogs, chats, forums that might imply otherwise but the only way i would believe is if they told me directly - and no one i ever dated ever has - so that is how i kept my trust in them alive without concerns or worries. anyone else feel this way works for them as well>?
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