jerseydrive86 Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Wassup loveshack. Im in a very tough situation. Im sure some of you have been in this situation before but here goes: My girlfriend and i have known each other for about 4 1/2 years. Over that course of time have been together twice and hasent worked out but we just recently got back together in september for a third time. Its been wonderful everything i've ever wanted in a girl shes it. But like all great things theres a problem: shes made some choices in the past that im not comfortable with. The second time we broke up was in december 2005 and from then on till september i've been with 1 girl while shes been with 6 guys! When she told me i was shocked because she told the stories of how she met and was with these guys and i felt that she gave it up to easy. i was surprised at her actions. It wasnt a long time ago it was recently just a few months before we got together. Then she told a story of how she came between two best friends. The guy was treating her wrong so she left him (i dont blame her for that) but went right to his best friend after they broke up when everybody knew he still had feelings for her, yet even at that they were still best friends! I was really hot at that because she seemed to see nothing wrong with that. Then she told me how she had sex with some of her ex boyfriends and how even after how bad they treated her she still went back to them, yet when i tried to ask her back numerous amount of times before we got back together she said no yet i never treated her wrong. We broke up because she told me she was still in love with her ex and felt like i should know even though we're in a relationship. I was like "nah we need to just end it right here and now "(Back in 2004). So what i tried so hard to get back, with her knowing i would treat her right, she gave so easily to some punk who treated her like crap!! I was pissed. I dont even feel special when we have sex because i feel like some other can get the same treatment just because he looks good. Yet deep down inside i know that she's changed and matured over the coarse of time; She's shown me this through our relationship. She calls and texts me just tell me she loves me, tells me where she is and what she's doin (not that i ask her to do all this. Im not a control freek) wants to be around me all the time and cries we i talk about leaving her. I told her how i felt about the situation and on numerous accations have broke up with her because of it yet only end up getting back with her because she begs and pleads and cries to give it a chance. I care about her but im not sure i love her the way i want to love her. I think about this night and day and i cant seem to get over my grudge. I dont want to throw away a good thing because i know shes a great girl and i do care for her deeply yet her past continues haunt me. We live together so that makes it even worse. So anybody with (or has been in) similar situations or can give some good advice please give me some feed back. That would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!
whichwayisup Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Its been wonderful everything i've ever wanted in a girl shes it. But like all great things theres a problem: shes made some choices in the past that im not comfortable with. The second time we broke up was in december 2005 To be honest I stopped reading your post after this line. The past is in the past and what she did or didn't do while you two were apart isn't your business. you have a good thing going now so focus on that and NOT her past choices. It's done and overwith, have nothing to do with your relationship now.
JadeStar Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I agree, its best to leave the past there. As long as things are still being brought up from the past or as long as you are worrying about it, you will never be able to move forward.
mental_traveller Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 When you broke up, it became her life again not both of you. She had every right to sleep with 1 guy or 1000 guys, since she was single. If you aren't comfortable with what she did, then obviously your entitled to not want to get back with her - no problem. It's just that your post sounds like you have some kind of right to expect her to behave a certain way - sorry but you signed any rights away when you split. You just have to make up your mind. Do you want to be with her, given the way she acted, or not? Are you cool with it or not? If you do, then just shut up about that whole interlude and forget it. If you can't forget it or keep quiet about it, then do her a favour and move on.
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