Spacecowboy79 Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Okay, here is the background, (a short summarized version) Met a woman this summer, didn't think much of her til about the beginning of November when she was, at least what I think was, giving me signals. So I asked her out, she said yes, day of 1st date arrives, calls me, says she has to cancel because she had to cover for a co-worker, I understood and took it as "not interested" then she wanted to re-schedule, and told me that she was not by any means blowing me off, I said sure, so we re-scheduled for after turkey break. The Monday after turkey break, she gets into car accident, (this was no lie, I know for sure she was in an accident) She calls me that day and explains what happened, I told her that if she did not feel like going out then it was okay, she still wanted to go out, I said okay. The next day comes, she was in class, she looked okay but I could tell she was in pain (she cracked a rib) I walked her to her next class and bought her a hot chocolate along the way, I told her again that if she was "physically" not feeling well then re-scheduling was a perfect option. She said, no we need to have dinner, call me tomorrow. I said "great." The next day comes, I was getting ready to call her, I get a text from her, it reads "sorry but all of the sudden I feel nervous about going on a date, i just got out of a serious relationship this summer and I'm not ready to date yet, please don't hate me." I called her and re-assured her that 1) I don't hate her and 2) I understand and 3) all I want to do is get to know you better, that's all. She said she was releived that I didn't hate her. 2 weeks later, I get a text from her, she wanted my address. A week after that, I got a xmas card from her. The next night she tried to call me but I was at a xmas party. I text her back the next day, she text me back saying that she was at some place and that there was a guy from my hometown that she had encountered that said he knew me. He was trying to call me from her phone. I was like "okay" So I text her back saying I would call her and explain who the guy was. I never called her back. So, I never called her back, basically because she wasn't the one who was calling me from her phone, also, I really don't understand her. Although she never stated she wasn't "interested" in me, I, well, I don't know what to think. I did send her a xmas card though. Anybody care to comment on this? I am not losing any sleep over it, It's just that I like this gal but she is sending mixed signals? I guess that really wasn't a short summarized version! Any input would be greatly appreciated.
Author Spacecowboy79 Posted December 20, 2006 Author Posted December 20, 2006 Oh I forgot to ask, would anybody send someone a xmas card that they really didn't "know?" I mean, i thought xmas cards were meant for long time friends and family right?
Guest Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 sounds like normal life to me. crap, i send emails to some people and get replies months later. i think she is doing a pretty darn good job considering everything that's happened to her - cut her some slack and go over there with some ice cream and help out around her place - cracked ribs are horrible
ddnnee Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 sounds like you did that right thing. I would do the same things. You get a card, you send one back. This girl sounds like she isn't ready for a relationship like you said. When she is ready, she will let you know... But it seems like she's too unsure about anything. Just let it go.
ShoeGirl Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 If I were you I would be curious as to what she was telling this guy that is from the same town as you, obviously she brought you up for some reason. I wouldn't bring up a some guy in that situation unless I was interested or wanted to know more about him. I would just wait for her to call you, I am guessing that she is interested but I would give her time to get over the last relationship.
DanielMadr Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 She is too complicated 'I had bad relationship'...so what? Some girls feel better sad than happy. Forget her.
moman Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 If I were you I would be curious as to what she was telling this guy that is from the same town as you, obviously she brought you up for some reason. I wouldn't bring up a some guy in that situation unless I was interested or wanted to know more about him. I would just wait for her to call you, I am guessing that she is interested but I would give her time to get over the last relationship. How much time should he give her?
Author Spacecowboy79 Posted December 20, 2006 Author Posted December 20, 2006 Thanks for the advice thus far. As I said before, I'm not losing any sleep over this. I do think that she has interest (the size of that interest, I don't know) in me but is not yet ready to date again. I will definately keep in touch with her but also keep my options open.
tanbark813 Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 She's no more interested than the last time you posted this.
Author Spacecowboy79 Posted December 21, 2006 Author Posted December 21, 2006 That is true, i will put this one to bed, just wanted one more opinion on it, on to better things!
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