londoncheater Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I was recently told by my wife that she had an affair with and old boyfriend for about two weeks. They had sex twice she tells me. She ended it she said. She said she would never do it again. But come to find out that she wrote a letter to the other guys wife about the affair but that she also "did" it with after telling me. She has been great at turning this around on me and pressuring me to forget it happened. I really wanted to work things out but as more and more is not told to me and she continues to lie about what has happened after she said she would not go back to him, I have to start to wonder. I found this information out by loading a keystroke tracker on my computer. And this is how I find out my information cause she evidently isn't going to be completely honest after saying she would be. How can I bring up this last time with him without rocking the boat. I want to tell her that I caught her with the keystroke tracker but then it'll get turned around on me that I don't trust her, even though she has proved me right time and time again. Help me with my cheating wife....
stillafool Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I think your wife should be doing everything to assure you she is finished with her affair. It is not fair for her to turn things around on you as she is the one who was doing wrong. I think you should ask her to go to counseling. Why is she wrting his wife a letter anyway?
Bryanp Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 If I understand your message you said that after your wife told you about her screwing this guy she continued to lie to you and have sex with him again behind your back? If she did this and continued to put your health at risk for STD's then I would confront her without telling her you have the information and also contact an attorney. She is continuing to disrespect and humiliate you. You forgave her and she had sex with him again? If the roles were reversed do you think she would put up with such crap from you? No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to stop. It sounds like you are acting like a complete doormat. Clearly she has no problems cheating on you and lying to you about it. Why would you wish to be with a spouse who continues to show you such contempt? She continues to disrepect you. If you do not respect yourself then who will?
Sup Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I was recently told by my wife that she had an affair with and old boyfriend for about two weeks. They had sex twice she tells me. She ended it she said. She said she would never do it again. But come to find out that she wrote a letter to the other guys wife about the affair but that she also "did" it with after telling me. She has been great at turning this around on me and pressuring me to forget it happened. I really wanted to work things out but as more and more is not told to me and she continues to lie about what has happened after she said she would not go back to him, I have to start to wonder. I found this information out by loading a keystroke tracker on my computer. And this is how I find out my information cause she evidently isn't going to be completely honest after saying she would be. How can I bring up this last time with him without rocking the boat. I want to tell her that I caught her with the keystroke tracker but then it'll get turned around on me that I don't trust her, even though she has proved me right time and time again. Help me with my cheating wife.... Forget about rocking the boat, tip the thing over! She HAS to be held responsible for HER actions.
Guest Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 I think your wife should be doing everything to assure you she is finished with her affair. It is not fair for her to turn things around on you as she is the one who was doing wrong. I think you should ask her to go to counseling. Why is she wrting his wife a letter anyway? In the letter, she says "I don't think my marriage should be the only one to suffer." The other wife has no idea about the affair, so she is holding on to the letter should things get rocky on our part
Guest Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Forget about rocking the boat, tip the thing over! She HAS to be held responsible for HER actions. Wish it was that easy, but she has a very short leash...
Guest Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 If I understand your message you said that after your wife told you about her screwing this guy she continued to lie to you and have sex with him again behind your back? If she did this and continued to put your health at risk for STD's then I would confront her without telling her you have the information and also contact an attorney. She is continuing to disrespect and humiliate you. You forgave her and she had sex with him again? If the roles were reversed do you think she would put up with such crap from you? No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to stop. It sounds like you are acting like a complete doormat. Clearly she has no problems cheating on you and lying to you about it. Why would you wish to be with a spouse who continues to show you such contempt? She continues to disrepect you. If you do not respect yourself then who will? I guess my question is I need to tell her I know stuff but she wrote this letter and printed it without saving it. I want to tell her that Microsoft saved the file to MY DOCUMENTS folder and I just happened upon it. But she might know that there is no way to see a file that was never saved to begin with. Any ideas, I need to know if she was with him again after she promised to stay faithful and not see him again. I want to believe she was just saying it to add ammunition to her letter to the other women.
Mr. Lucky Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 I want to tell her that I caught her with the keystroke tracker but then it'll get turned around on me that I don't trust her Don't trust her to do what? Cheat on you? Typical tactic of a liar and a cheater. They'll tell you "The problem isn't my behaviour, the problem is your reaction to my behaviour". They can be very good at turning things around. Remember the old saying that "You're not paranoid if they really are out to get you", it applies here. Why would you stay in this marriage, especially since it seems that you wife has already left? Mr. Lucky
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