Star Gazer Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Okay, without going into details, over the past few days I've been having some doubts about the guy I'm dating. I'm not entirely thrilled with our "status" and the tiny amount of communication I receive from him. Let's just say I'm rethinking how much I like him, or how much I WANT to like him given how little I'm receiving in return. As soon as I started analyzing the situation and really thinking things over, OUT OF NOWHERE came like FIVE, yes FIVE, other guys that I have either dated previously or have been interested in. They are all calling, texting, emailing, whatever... making their interest known. One even asked if he could take me to dinner tonight, and another wants us to have a special Xmas eve together! WTF?! And here I am in this "exclusive but not a girlfriend" status and wondering WHY THE HELL CAN'T I veeeeerrrrrrrrryyyyyy casually date these guys and see what they have to offer me? This happens every single time! It's like when it rains it pours... Except, for most people, it starts freakin' pouring when things are going good with the guy. For me, it starts pouring the very moment I start to question "where is this going?" - which inevitably leads me to make foolish choices. On the other hand, it keeps my thoughts off the guy who has been occupying my thoughts for what feels like forever. Seriously, why does this happen? I'm considering re-broaching the "status" conversation with my guy, but saying that UNTIL we're BOTH ready to actually BE BF-GF, I think we should be able to DATE other people. Not sleep with, but date. How do you think that will go over?
Guest Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 not very well if i was in that situation, i would see it as a great way to start rebuilding trust and thus - while things work there way out - NO DATING FOR ME besides - i am only interested in one person that i have no idea where she leaves or have her phone number other than that - its pretty good lol
norajane Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 If you're exclusive - meaning you're only dating each other, how can you not be bf/gf? If you're not ready to date exclusively, then tell your bf you're not ready. Whatever is holding you back from wanting to date him exclusively, and whatever is holding him back from calling you his girlfriend should be enough of a red flag to tell you that you aren't quite ready for any kind of relationship promises and commitments. You're both holding back, or you haven't quite gotten to that point in your relationship yet.
ddnnee Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 with this attitude, i'll see you in the seperation and breakup sections.
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