Blaze7 Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Ok this is hard to type. I'm in an LDR with my girlfriend because I went off to collage and she's back home. We started going out 3 months ago just before I moved. I have never cheated on her nor any other girlfriends I had. Ok now me and my girlfriend (I'll call her Kay, not her real name) can only have phone sex. I was talking with my close friend (Car [again not her real name]), who lives close to me but still too far to be a hang out friend, on the phone and we usually just masturbate and listen to eachother moan. Anyway it went too far last week and we ended up having phone oral sex. I told Kay what happened even though it was a total accident, I was super stressed out and Car was helping me to relax and the stress just took over my actions. Kay gave me a second chance and we're fine. Now today just 30 minutes ago me and Car had phone sex, not just oral. I'm stressed out, I don't want to tell because Kay will kill me and leave me. I love her more than anything. I don't know what I was thinking. Also I'm sposed to go to Car's house for a new years party (I don't have the money to go back home). I know damn well that I won't drink because, well I can't for health reasons. I don't know what to do. I love Kay so much. I hate myself for this. P.S. I'm a cutter and about the phone sex stuff, just shove the jokes crap
Guest Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I'd just like to say that i'm the "other girl" the one he refers to as "car". I feel so horrible about this and i really don't know how it happened. I'm friends with his gf too and she's an amazing person. and for anybody who thinks it's not a big deal-it is. as blaze said we can't tell kay because she'd first of all break up with him and second disown us both. neither of us wants to lose her. i'm looking for advice also because i'm a big part of this. I'm basically the cause of the problem and i wish it were different but i can't change the past.
punkrocchik Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I'd just like to say that i'm the "other girl" that blaze was talking about. He refers to me as car. I'm so sorry about what happened and you all have to understand that i'm also friends with kay and would never want to hurt her. It just...sort of...happened. i know we can't tell her because she'll disown us both and it'll severely harm if not destroy her relationship with blaze. i never wanted anybody to get hurt and i just feel so guilty. I've known him for about a year now and I care about blaze alot. i love him as a friend ...and possibly something more...i'm really not sure about that. I wish i could change what happened but i can't and that's just the way it is.
BlueEyedSarah Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I don't really know what advice to offer but in my opinion I would rather be told the truth rather than having this lie...and then find out later on in life, that will feel so much more worse... It will be up to your girlfriend to forgive the both of you. If she forgives you then I would suggest you don't do it again but if she doesn't forgive you then you have to realise you have learnt your lesson and have to move on from the mistake you have made.
norajane Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I was talking with my close friend (Car [again not her real name]), who lives close to me but still too far to be a hang out friend, on the phone and we usually just masturbate and listen to eachother moan. Anyway it went too far last week and we ended up having phone oral sex.Um, listening to each other masturbate and moan over the phone IS phone sex, just as whatever "phone oral sex" is (I presume you talked to each other to bring each other off). What I'm trying to say is that you both crossed the line long before. If you have a gf, you do not do sexual things with anyone else including listening to each other masturbate. That is not a "just friends" thing to do!! You two know nothing about boundaries. Kay would do well to be angry and to dump you. You can't prevent yourself from doing something to hurt her when you don't even know where to draw the line.
Author Blaze7 Posted December 20, 2006 Author Posted December 20, 2006 Kay and I had the boundaries set. She said I could cyber, and masturbate over the phone. Also there are different ways to have phone sex as there is with cybering. Anyway I know what I'm going to do, and I don't really feel like tell ya'll what it is since I think ya'll are going to be so rude about it.
BlueEyedSarah Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Kay and I had the boundaries set. She said I could cyber, and masturbate over the phone. Are you in a serious relationship with her or is it just casual? Because to me this sounds more like a casual think to do when in a relationship with someone.
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