Guest Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 u can go to any site, forum and the advice is all the same when directed towards telling a man how to get over an ex - u know, the standard stuff - always cold, its YOU time. i don't think women understand that telling a man, what he should do, and doing it that way is truly demeaning to the woman and the man. if u treated people like that in a relationship, you would be called an arse but somehow it has become acceptable to treat people with zero respect afterwards - makes no sense. to me, the test of a person is how they deal with the tough stuff. i hear people who do nc, complain about every little thing but do nothing about it. the level of weird games played is mental - like ok you can't call him until three days after the email, ok, if he tells u he loves u, he's needy and make him wait - gawd i didn't even go thru this stuff in grade school! for me, this week is the start of the end of this silliness - because u wanna know how easy it is? i simply called someone i was interested in this afternoon, asked her if she wanted to catch a moivie and dinner - she said KEWL - that's was it! simple eh? u are either a driver or a passenger in life. get the rust out people and go have fun.
Speedo Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 u can go to any site, forum and the advice is all the same when directed towards telling a man how to get over an ex - u know, the standard stuff - always cold, its YOU time. i don't think women understand that telling a man, what he should do, and doing it that way is truly demeaning to the woman and the man. if u treated people like that in a relationship, you would be called an arse but somehow it has become acceptable to treat people with zero respect afterwards - makes no sense. to me, the test of a person is how they deal with the tough stuff. i hear people who do nc, complain about every little thing but do nothing about it. the level of weird games played is mental - like ok you can't call him until three days after the email, ok, if he tells u he loves u, he's needy and make him wait - gawd i didn't even go thru this stuff in grade school! for me, this week is the start of the end of this silliness - because u wanna know how easy it is? i simply called someone i was interested in this afternoon, asked her if she wanted to catch a moivie and dinner - she said KEWL - that's was it! simple eh? u are either a driver or a passenger in life. get the rust out people and go have fun. You're talking about two completely different things. NC has nothing to do with asking someone out that you're interested in. It applies to a person who has been broken up with and is a mature way to handle the situation. What is more "gradeschool?" Calling, texting, emailing, etc. every five seconds trying to resolve a relationship? Or stepping back and taking the time to analyze the situation without all of the emotional baggage? You apparently don't understand the purpose of NC at all.
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