Break-up or Cope

[persistant]

I don't know where to post this. I'm in all categories today.

 

In brief, I need to vent.

 

I adore the man I've been seeing. I've known him for almost 2 years. He is great to me when we are together but when apart I feel like I don't exist to him.

 

I went to his home to break up with him last week because he doesn't spend quality time with me-- because he puts work and other things (mostly work related) over me.

 

When I sat him down and told him 'goodbye', 'don't call me', 'dont email me anymore', he asked me if that was what I really wanted. I told him emotionally NO. logically YES.

 

I am more needy in the area of attention then he is giving me.

Not seeing him but once every 2-3 weeks makes me very uncomfortable.

We only live about 32 miles apart.

 

I asked him to let me go and he stated he didn't know if he can. He asked me for time to think about it.

 

I don't want to let him go but I don't know how I can handle my emotions being apart from him.

 

When we are together he is focused on me, he treats me very well, he is fun, loving, affectionate, playful, serious, we are like yin & yang when we are together. But when we are apart he gets so into his work he forgets to contact me (plan me in his life). He's been single for a good part of 10-15 years with no woman to tend too. He is use to being alone. How do I change that?

Do I try to change that?

Can I change that?

How do I cope?

 

It was an emotional night for both of us when I tried (failed) to break up with him. He told me he doesn't know if he can let me go.

We both had huge puddles of tears built up in our eyes.

I can see, feel, and hear he doesn't want to give up on me but how do I handle him being so disconnected when he and I are apart.

 

How do I cope with his work distractions from me?

I've tried to busy myself with things to occupy my time so I don't obsess; it doesn't help when I miss him so dearly.

[Guest]

when i comes down to things like this its always lose/lose. if u give them yer time, u are needy and pathetic. when u don't, u are uncaring and not to be trusted. no wonder guys like FWBs! LOL

[basscatcher]

when i comes down to things like this its always lose/lose.

Do think a person can't change or wake up?

 

if u give them yer time, u are needy and pathetic. when u don't, u are uncaring and not to be trusted.

What does this have to do with her post?

 

 

no wonder guys like FWBs! LOL

cold men like FWB. men who can't invest themselves in a real relationship and who are only out for their OWN gratification without concern for another persons feelings.

[basscatcher]

Persistant I'm in a very similiar situation.

When you figure things out let me know how it went.