eshep Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I have been married for 16 and 1/2 years now and i have one son age 16 and my husband treats me like trash. he is all the the critizise me and cussing me for no reason at all. I cry all the time i never go a day with out crying. i am so depressed i have been on med and i go to a metal health places for help bvecause i have try to take my life serval times. My husband says he loves me but he never wants to make love. We don't ever go out and have no fun and he says it is beacause of me but that is not it I just dont like going with him nowheree because he alaways hyurts my feeling and makes me cry it doesnt matter where we are at. I have meet a new man and i really am fallinfg in love with him but my son doesnt want me to leave his dad so i dont want to hurt him. But i will never be happy here as long as his dad is here. He has mad me hate him. so what should i do should i go with this man and live with him or should i live here in misery for the rest of my life .
Author eshep Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 please help me make a disecion !
BlueEyedSarah Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I have been married for 16 and 1/2 years now and i have one son age 16 and my husband treats me like trash. he is all the the critizise me and cussing me for no reason at all. I cry all the time i never go a day with out crying. i am so depressed i have been on med and i go to a metal health places for help bvecause i have try to take my life serval times. My husband says he loves me but he never wants to make love. We don't ever go out and have no fun and he says it is beacause of me but that is not it I just dont like going with him nowheree because he alaways hyurts my feeling and makes me cry it doesnt matter where we are at. I have meet a new man and i really am fallinfg in love with him but my son doesnt want me to leave his dad so i dont want to hurt him. But i will never be happy here as long as his dad is here. He has mad me hate him. so what should i do should i go with this man and live with him or should i live here in misery for the rest of my life . Don't run off with the new man, that makes you look like the bad cop and also it will upset your son. Have you tried talking to your husband about the way he is making you feel or the way he is treating you that it is upsetting you?
Love Hurts Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Taking your life because you’re unhappy in a marriage is a cry for help…….Norman Bates (your husband) cannot see it or does not care if you live or die. Move on girl. Divorce is not the unforgivable sin. Your son is just that, a son. He loves and will heal the loss of his parents together under the same roof. Time heals all wounds. He is not to dictate your life’s decisions. Particularly where love and health, joy and happiness are much needed attributes in your dark world. If he is unable to understand now………one day as he matures mentally…..he will understand. Those who get mad …. Get glad again. Time heals all wounds and all that good garb. I would suggest you … Do not run off to live with the man you met. Instead get your head out of the sand and see the sunlight with clear vision………….I highly recommend you get your own place. This way your son can visit you and feel comfortable. (he will resent any man in your life for a long time…..that will change too….not to worry.. give him time to adjust to what is and what is no longer. Some females keep their existing home and suggest their husband leave. You do what you feel you can handle…… This step is particularly nasty…. Your husband may consider sneaking a PFA on you ……..to have you evicted from the premises. Watch your back! I am trying to cover some new basis for you……….think outside the box. If you can afford your own place……….that’s the best way to go at the moment. If not …….. When you walk out the door and leave your possessions………. He can and will do what he desires with them…. He may sell or pitch them just to spite you…. You know him now……..you may be surprised at the man you do not know… the man that emerges in divorce proceedings. No basket weaving for you or hating life so badly you want to end it…………. You deserve so much more in life and its amazing how light and free you will feel……… just by getting divorced from a man that obviously has many deep rooted problems. He sounds like he hates himself. I only hope he is not the type to wish you would die so he could collect on your life insurance policy……. YOU never know! Run for your life, Run for your JOY, Run for your health and happiness, Run for existence worth existing for. God Bless. PS……..Divorce is expensive depending on how much you two agree to disagree……….. You are going to need to visit the bank now…………to retain a good Lawyer. Tuck a little cash away for yourself if possible…. This transitional phase requires cash…… help yourself to freedom. Its time to get selfish……….if you don’t take care of YOU…………WHO WILL?
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