silentcharon Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Hi, all. I've put myself back into lurking mode. I still reply to some posts occasionally, but not often now. And what do you know, I check out the dating forums more now than I do with the break up forums. To make a story short- things were looking good between the ex and I, since he had moved from "NO" to "Maybe..." I thought we were moving towards a possible reconcilation or at least a friendship out of the deal. What broke the deal? I found out that he got the other girl that was in the picture pregnant and she had to get it aborted. While he was going behind her back to hang out with me. When I found out, I was deeply hurt- it shattered my heart into pieces. I realized that I deserved someone better, someone who wanted to be with me- who would say "Yes" than "Maybe". I told him, that even though the whole pregnancy thing had nothing to do with me, I was still hurt by it- that we should probably cut our losses and move on. I have no doubt that if I was in the other girl's shoes, he would have done the same with me. No thanks. I still see him around when I hang out with our mutual friends, and strangely enough, I'm okay with it. I don't long for my ex anymore, I've moved on now. I've met someone new, and he asked me out- I said yes, but that I wanted to go slowly. This is very new to me, after a 7 year relationship, and months of torture that followed after it- I have found happiness. I have realized that I deserve someone better, and I have found one, so far, I really, really like him. Even if it doesn't work out with the new person, I'm happy that I've cut my losses at last and moved on. Things are going very well for me. I have learned some valuable lessons that unfortunately I had to learn the hard way, but nevertheless, I learned a lot. I guess, the point of this post was to let those still hurting know that there is life after a break up. You all deserve to be happy and to be with someone who will love you- like I do. Hang in there, everything WILL get better at some point. I hope you all have happy holidays, and a happy new year!
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