just_here Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I have a question for those MM, MW who fell out of love with their W/H. I assume you loved her/him when you got married. With the EXCEPTION of affairs/cheating, how did you fall out of love? What was the crucial reason? Did you fall out of love out of a blue, say, in one day, or by an event or trivial incident, or gradually over a year, 2 years...? Do you think she/he was to be blamed, or you just out grew her/him? (for example in some marriages the men say their wives stopped paying attention to appearance, they dress slopily and gain weight. Others say they found each other not sharing anything in common shortly after getting married) Thinking back, do you think you could have foretold the troubles ahead when you were getting married?
bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I have a question for those MM, MW who fell out of love with their W/H. I assume you loved her/him when you got married. With the EXCEPTION of affairs/cheating, how did you fall out of love? What was the crucial reason? Did you fall out of love out of a blue, say, in one day, or by an event or trivial incident, or gradually over a year, 2 years...? Do you think she/he was to be blamed, or you just out grew her/him? (for example in some marriages the men say their wives stopped paying attention to appearance, they dress slopily and gain weight. Others say they found each other not sharing anything in common shortly after getting married) Thinking back, do you think you could have foretold the troubles ahead when you were getting married? Askin ghow someone fell out of love is like asking how they fell in love. Most people dont know. It just happened. they can point to things that led them in that direction, but to say exactly why I think would be very hard.
amess79 Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 i saw that my wife wasnt for me for so many reasons before i got married but i didnt really read the signs and like alot of people i was scared that Id be making the wrong decision. i had love for her but was never at any one point in time crazy about her..and i continually askedmyself is this it and i was continually flirting but deep down i was searching for real love..im ending my marriage bc she doesnt deserve it, even though she doesnt want me to leave even after i have told her i dont love her..its really hard..all I do is feel guilty, but i want to be happy and fulfilled and i want the same for her in the end..i know im a good guy but i made a mistake..she has issues and i wasnt in love ever. she just doesnt do it for me totally...it was really hard to come that realization
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