Jump to content
While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted

I am a bit chatty tonight. Trying to work through some feelings of this year and a half affair. Last conversation after he claims he told his wife. "I was addicted to the adrenaline rush". My response : "I never loved you it was only a fantasy". his: "But you told me last night you love me not your H and you would leave him for me" Mine: "It was a fantasy not real love". Him: "I will pray for you". What the heck does that mean?

 

AP

Posted

It sounds condescending to me.

  • Author
Posted
It sounds condescending to me.

 

What do you mean?

Posted
It sounds condescending to me.

 

Extremely condescending.

Posted

It means he is rationalizing, he making you out to be the crazy, he is calling you on your stuff and not his. He is PLAYING GAMES! Tell him to "pray" all he wants!

 

In fact don't tell him anything, that is your best bet, just get out!

I'll be around! keep working through things on here and not with MM, he will just keep rubbing it in and making it harder.

best

  • Author
Posted
It means he is rationalizing, he making you out to be the crazy, he is calling you on your stuff and not his. He is PLAYING GAMES! Tell him to "pray" all he wants!

 

In fact don't tell him anything, that is your best bet, just get out!

I'll be around! keep working through things on here and not with MM, he will just keep rubbing it in and making it harder.

best

 

Kymberann, Thank's! That's what I thought! Why the **** would he make me to be the crazy one! This is why I want a face to face with the wife! I know her. She know's me! I have to see her everyday.He is going to get off by saying he will pray for me?? That I am crazy? Does she know what he has done? NO! I am sure he said all this cause his poor little ego will not be stroked by me, WELL if he wanted it so bad then he should have given in to the desire he had and not made me look like a complete fool! Sorry to vent, but it's good for me.

 

AP

Posted

Why the **** would he make me to be the crazy one!

 

You vent all it takes. But do it here. Of course someone has to be the crazy. The reason for the insanity, the excuse that he did what he did and had to do. To point the finger in some one elses direction and to build credibility with his W and not take responsibility!

 

Think again about confronting W. Maybe it will work, but really consider the way in which you present yourself. you don't want to prove MM right if he is making you out to be the crazy, right? What will it get you right now?

Best

  • Author
Posted
Why the **** would he make me to be the crazy one!

 

You vent all it takes. But do it here. Of course someone has to be the crazy. The reason for the insanity, the excuse that he did what he did and had to do. To point the finger in some one elses direction and to build credibility with his W and not take responsibility!

 

Think again about confronting W. Maybe it will work, but really consider the way in which you present yourself. you don't want to prove MM right if he is making you out to be the crazy, right? What will it get you right now?

Best

 

Kymberann, Your are right.

 

For me to confront her would not be of the classy Woman that I am! I am not insane I am just so hurt. My H has been traveling pretty much all month. I spoke to him this afternoon while at the airport and he said to me " We will get throught this, I love you" H knows how MM is since he is a neighbor. The problem I have in life is I like to figure thing's out. I tend to really dig deep before I can put closesure to thing's. I have always been this way. I guess I wonder if MM was falling in love with me?

Posted

I guess I wonder if MM was falling in love with me?

 

It doesn't matter, besides he probably wasn't the way he was stringing you on! Perhaps this is why you hurt? Don't let him sabotage the classy woman that you are.

 

The problem I have in life is I like to figure thing's out. I tend to really dig deep before I can put closesure to thing's.

 

That may be, but you figuring things out on your terms may not be the real reason why another person did what they did. It wil lead to to over analyze and drive you towards more frustration. I am that way and relearning as we speak!

 

Get closure, but don't involve MM, that just gives him more of your energy!

Best to you!

×
×
  • Create New...