Chapter2 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 She helped drag me....took a few of you though...I fought hard! Well... you're one of my works in progress. Come awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn, LNF, come awwwwwwwwwwwn!! Come to the other side!!!!!
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 She helped drag me....took a few of you though...I fought hard! Everyone fights it. Which is why I gave up for awhile. But you done good!
Freedom Now Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Movinon drug me to her side too and she is still dragging me along with her....as did LNF, RC, Zara, Chapter2.... Love you all!
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Movinon drug me to her side too and she is still dragging me along with her....as did LNF, RC, Zara, Chapter2.... Love you all! Ha! You were the first conquest! lol! If it killed me or you, I wasn't giving up on you!!!!! You'll be in my shoes in no time! I can feel it in my bones! :bunny:
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Where is Zara when you need her? Too bad she can't post. I want to torture her with bunnies! :bunny: :bunny:
Freedom Now Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 You figured me out, eh? I didn't realize you recognized me baby! (Yeah, it sucks when those pesky MM read your posts and you have to change your name.....) Movinon, I Love ya.... I wish the gang would all come back! We were some formidable women, and still are, right ladies?!
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 You figured me out, eh? I didn't realize you recognized me baby! (Yeah, it sucks when those pesky MM read your posts and you have to change your name.....) Movinon, I Love ya.... I wish the gang would all come back! We were some formidable women, and still are, right ladies?! Well yeah. But I got you covered! Muahhhhh.
Freedom Now Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 She helped drag me....took a few of you though...I fought hard! but you are winning the war. Cheers to you, Chapter2... :bunny: :bunny: :bunny: :bunny: :bunny: (in honor of Zara)
Freedom Now Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Well yeah. But I got you covered! Muahhhhh. Cheers to making it to the other side!
movinon05 Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 And hey, here's an added bonus I'm reminded of while I sit here wrapping presents... I'm getting 7 Christmas gifts from BF! Know when the last time was that I got 7 gifts from any guy??? 5? 4? 3? 2? NEVER. Something else to put in the past. BTW, he absolutely loved the Tony Bennett tickets. Was quite shocked. (I just realized, I think we're hijacking). Need to pull up the good old standby thread. You know the one!
Freedom Now Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 You rock woman! And we are notorious for threadjacking, remember? I will repost the old standby in honor of all of us...
oyster Posted December 24, 2006 Posted December 24, 2006 I like to know your situation is... Because I'm happy one min and the next unknow... bump reminder to tell us your story
Guest Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 bump reminder to tell us your story I'm not even sure where to start. Since he's been back from his two trip out of country w/ his w he's been very talkative and we've meet in the park and again we have gone beyond just hugging and kissing. It's almost he and I are back where we were (in somewhat.) To explain this abit better when we started we were friends he got caugh with my text by the w/ and we both back off (well that lasted 3 days.) Then he got caugh by father in-law few months later. His father in-law gave him cell phone bill (family plan thing.) And we again thought that was it. Well it lasted only for the weekend. Then he went on two weeks vacation w/ the W and her family to where he was born. The min he has his chance to get on the computer (which is the very next day) he e-mail'd me and said how he missed me already and wish it was me that was there with him. Over the vacation every chance he got he IM or e-mail'd me. When he got back he was at work the very next day. few days after I get a text saying '**** the phone bill. he loves me and that he didn't care if they find out.' So not only one time he got caught but two times by the W. I know there's legal reason but I also know there's health reason why he's still at home. I'm lost in words at this point....
lostlovebbg Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 bump reminder to tell us your story So what is your story??? You said it was like what I'm going thur. I loke to hear what it is.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 27, 2006 Posted December 27, 2006 It sounds like hes not leaving her and unless W ends it he will not . My ex MM when he was caught by her the same thing (wasnt even me long story but i thought @the time he left her for me actully she found out about another OW) Anyway the above was 8/2005 well 8/2006 around the same time ,which is near there wedding anniveristy he was busted again! Differnt female . Thats the last time i spoke to him was that day ,all those years (5) we were together all i heard was how unhappy if not for child ,he wishes W would end it... I learned from a friend of his ,who actully let me know of all the 8/2005 activity ,who i didnt meet until febuary 2006 ,i broke it off for good with MM 3/2006 . Anyway sorry off track the W told the friend MM actully cried & was denying & said the wedding to her was the most beautiful day of his life ,when W was kicking him out sooo.... as far as i know hes still with W. No women deserves a man like that he will continue to use you for his needs then when you smarten up & decide all or nothing he will find someone else . Mine did & blamed me because i wouldnt sleep with him no more unless he was Divorced from 8/2005 -3/2006 when i dumped him there were 3 other OW during that time . And he denied denied denied to me & then blamed me ,more to it & worst but anyway please stop being his door mat & take good care of yourself . good luck Sounds like my WH! Can't say I agree with Oyster though. Anyone who is "working on" there marriage or even staying for the kids who is having an A is the reason the M will never work. Kinda like complaining that your yard is a mess then going and raking all of the neighbors leaves onto it. Doesn't make sense to me. Just my 2 cents.
lostlovebbg Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Update on my status w/ my MM.. Well we did do that NC for a month (however we do work together so we do/did see other time to time but still no NC.) Then we started e-mailin here and there a bit. The he went on vacation with the W for two weeks came back and the e-mail turned into IM's all day. From that to meeting me for lunch everynow and then. We don't talk about his drama at home. But when I ask how things are with him he does tell me. Not everything. He tells me he's still working on things w/ the W. I'm taking things slow and being careful of what I'm doing now. So that's that.
oyster Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Update on my status w/ my MM.. Well we did do that NC for a month (however we do work together so we do/did see other time to time but still no NC.) Then we started e-mailin here and there a bit. The he went on vacation with the W for two weeks came back and the e-mail turned into IM's all day. From that to meeting me for lunch everynow and then. We don't talk about his drama at home. But when I ask how things are with him he does tell me. Not everything. He tells me he's still working on things w/ the W. I'm taking things slow and being careful of what I'm doing now. So that's that. taking it slow is good, did you set a timeline for your self? My story is posted in length in the thread "NC Purpose - open question" One good thing is you are blocking all topics about his home issues. This will avoid him using you for emotional support (walking cane = you). Then with time he will see things more clearly
norajane Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 He tells me he's still working on things w/ the W. What does that mean? Is he trying to work on his marriage or is he trying to get out of his marriage?
lostlovebbg Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 Thanks Oyster. No timeline. Just going as is. Yeah it is a really good thing we never really bring up how his M is. I do enjoy our lunch time together. It's peaceful it's just about him and I...
lostlovebbg Posted January 9, 2007 Posted January 9, 2007 What does that mean? Is he trying to work on his marriage or is he trying to get out of his marriage? He's trying to work on his marriage but he knows deep down no matter what it'll never be. And for him to leave has to come from him and not because of me.
lostlovebbg Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Another update: So the last few day we've been meeting for lunch then today he got me pink roses... I feel lost but yet grounded.
norajane Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 He's trying to work on his marriage but he knows deep down no matter what it'll never be. And for him to leave has to come from him and not because of me. Well, then he needs to not have any contact with you while he is "working on his marriage". How hard can he be working on it if he's seeing you on the side? He's still lying to his wife and family about it, so he's not being honest, and "working on his marriage" requires honesty. What exactly is he doing to work on his marriage? Are they in counseling? Are they discussing their issues? Or is he just saying he's working on his marriage so you that so you believe he will one day leave his wife because he's unhappy? He sounds like he's a looooong way off from leaving his marriage, if ever. And even if he does decide to end his marriage, then he'll have to do the legal separation thing - which takes time - and then finally go through a divorce - which also takes time - and then he'll need to recover from all the divorce emotions and instability... And once he's all recovered and able to be in a real relationship, who's to say he'll want to be in one with you? Or who's to say he'll want to get married again, ever? Don't assume he's telling you the truth about everything, certainly not his marriage. He has no plans to leave right now. That means you shouldn't be around to be his little crutch to make his unhappy marriage bearable. That means he may not be all that unhappy, but just wants a little sumthin' on the side - you. Look out for yourself, not him.
whichwayisup Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 So the last few day we've been meeting for lunch then today he got me pink roses... I feel lost but yet grounded. False sense of security...Don't fall for it. Let me ask you something. What DO you think those pink roses were to mean? Please, be honest.
lostlovebbg Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I don't look into things or assume thing so my answer have to be it's a rose...
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