Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Question to MM, MW, OW, OM Say you got caught cheating on your other half. You not only tells your half you want to work thinks out because you love him/her. One month pass by not talking to OW/OM then started talking again w/ the person u had an affair w/, now you’re starting to spend time with that person. Can anyone explain why???
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Can anyone explain why??? My guess would be because they want to keep their marriage, but don't want to give up the OW/OM.
oyster Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Question to MM, MW, OW, OM Say you got caught cheating on your other half. You not only tells your half you want to work thinks out because you love him/her. One month pass by not talking to OW/OM then started talking again w/ the person u had an affair w/, now you’re starting to spend time with that person. Can anyone explain why??? because you are going back to the OW/OM for emotionnal support so that you can survive your marriage.
Meaplus3 Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 because you are going back to the OW/OM for emotionnal support so that you can survive your marriage. I agree with Oyster! I am not stalking you Oyster, LOL:laugh: AP
yousaveme Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Maybe the holidays have completely made me an idiot . But what did you mean by saying survive the marriage? because you are going back to the OW/OM for emotionnal support so that you can survive your marriage.
Guest Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Are their kids involved? There are no kid/s involve. But there is legal issue that I don't want to disclose.
bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Maybe the holidays have completely made me an idiot . But what did you mean by saying survive the marriage? Getting what they need fromk outside the marriage to help make the marriage itself bareable
Meaplus3 Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Getting what they need fromk outside the marriage to help make the marriage itself bareable Well said bonehead. That's how I felt when my "A" started. AP
frannie Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 If someone said to their partner that they wanted to work on the relationship and then went back to talk to the person they had an affair with, I'd say they were lying about that. They just want to give the impression that they're satisfied with that one person (their partner) when they're really not. For what reason..? Could be a whole lot of reasons. Some people here have already given a few suggestions which could apply.
Guest Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 If someone said to their partner that they wanted to work on the relationship and then went back to talk to the person they had an affair with, I'd say they were lying about that. They just want to give the impression that they're satisfied with that one person (their partner) when they're really not. For what reason..? Could be a whole lot of reasons. Some people here have already given a few suggestions which could apply. Thanks... I know he's trying to work things out w/ his W for legal and other reason. I know his feeling and my feeling are real. And I know it'll takes some time... Thanks
oyster Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Thanks... I know he's trying to work things out w/ his W for legal and other reason. I know his feeling and my feeling are real. And I know it'll takes some time... Thanks keep us posted and come back. Register so I can follow your story. I am in similar situation as you but I am the OM.
lostlovebbg Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 keep us posted and come back. Register so I can follow your story. I am in similar situation as you but I am the OM. I am register. Well I'm not sure what to say.. There's so many question I want to ask and there will be time to ask that question.
Guest Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 keep us posted and come back. Register so I can follow your story. I am in similar situation as you but I am the OM. I like to know your situation is... Because I'm happy one min and the next unknow...
redlynne Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 It sounds like hes not leaving her and unless W ends it he will not . My ex MM when he was caught by her the same thing (wasnt even me long story but i thought @the time he left her for me actully she found out about another OW) Anyway the above was 8/2005 well 8/2006 around the same time ,which is near there wedding anniveristy he was busted again! Differnt female . Thats the last time i spoke to him was that day ,all those years (5) we were together all i heard was how unhappy if not for child ,he wishes W would end it... I learned from a friend of his ,who actully let me know of all the 8/2005 activity ,who i didnt meet until febuary 2006 ,i broke it off for good with MM 3/2006 . Anyway sorry off track the W told the friend MM actully cried & was denying & said the wedding to her was the most beautiful day of his life ,when W was kicking him out sooo.... as far as i know hes still with W. No women deserves a man like that he will continue to use you for his needs then when you smarten up & decide all or nothing he will find someone else . Mine did & blamed me because i wouldnt sleep with him no more unless he was Divorced from 8/2005 -3/2006 when i dumped him there were 3 other OW during that time . And he denied denied denied to me & then blamed me ,more to it & worst but anyway please stop being his door mat & take good care of yourself . good luck
puddleofmud Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Welcome Red and sorry about what you have gone through...hope things are getting better for you! Best Wishes!
scaredinlove Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Question to MM, MW, OW, OM Say you got caught cheating on your other half. You not only tells your half you want to work thinks out because you love him/her. One month pass by not talking to OW/OM then started talking again w/ the person u had an affair w/, now you’re starting to spend time with that person. Can anyone explain why??? Did I wrote that ? it sounds like my story....My MM got caught told his wife he loves me but loves her too and wanted to try, broke up with me and called me back after 2 weeks. Now we have no physical affair and we are trying to do nc that dosen't work.Another day he called 5 times in 2 hours because I was going to a party and he was jelouse and ask me not to cheat on him. On the other hand he goes home and tell his wife he dosen't talk to me anymore. Than he calls me and say it is over ,than it is not over again. later he tells me he is leaving her, and coming with me.Even asked if he could move in. Next day he don't even mention it. I told him to make up his mind and call me when he is sure.They are hooked to the fence. You MM probably likes youi and don't wnt to loose you. I guess the plan is to calm the wife at home and continue the affair the way it was before and keep both. Tha is the only explanation I can come up with.
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Did I wrote that ? it sounds like my story....My MM got caught told his wife he loves me but loves her too and wanted to try, broke up with me and called me back after 2 weeks. Now we have no physical affair and we are trying to do nc that dosen't work.Another day he called 5 times in 2 hours because I was going to a party and he was jelouse and ask me not to cheat on him. On the other hand he goes home and tell his wife he dosen't talk to me anymore. Than he calls me and say it is over ,than it is not over again. later he tells me he is leaving her, and coming with me.Even asked if he could move in. Next day he don't even mention it. I told him to make up his mind and call me when he is sure.They are hooked to the fence. You MM probably likes youi and don't wnt to loose you. I guess the plan is to calm the wife at home and continue the affair the way it was before and keep both. That's the way it usually works! Tha is the only explanation I can come up with. Damn SIL, were we seeing the same guy??
scaredinlove Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Damn SIL, were we seeing the same guy?? Who knows maybe.
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Who knows maybe. Then allow me to drag you to the other side. Its much nicer here! I've already drug a few others, sometimes kicking and screaming!! LOL!
puddleofmud Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 You're not giving much detail. Why do YOU think this happened? Are you asking why HE again became involved or why YOU again became involved? Or both? What is the situation with your "better half"? You cheated on him/her and you are still in love with them> Or are YOU the other side of the better half and your partner who may have come back to you confessing their love is now spending time with the OW/OM and you want to know why? I suspect the latter....so just say what you mean and don't worry about it! All are willing to help as best as we can.
pureinheart Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Hey guest....go ahead and tell your story....it's difficult to be of real help this way....k....hope you are ok.....
lovernotafighter Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Then allow me to drag you to the other side. Its much nicer here! I've already drug a few others, sometimes kicking and screaming!! LOL! Me?! LOL!! nice to see you MO5!
movinon05 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Me?! LOL!! nice to see you MO5! Well... you're one of my works in progress. Come awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn, LNF, come awwwwwwwwwwwn!! Come to the other side!!!!!
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